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I am in love with a woman who has a daughter who is 15 and recently has been diagnosed with autism. Before she was diagnosed her mom and I split up. We had a period of time that did not go well and we had some arguments that her daughter heard. No violence ever but they are not the best arguments. We split for 8 months and love each other very much. I should also say I love her daughter as well. The issue is her daughter is having very intense episodes towards her mom about getting back together with me. She has told her mom that she will never accept me, she throws things around the house and she has made statements like her mom doesn't care for her even if she is dead. Her mom is scared and is going to end things with me because she can't take the risk of hurting her daughter or her daughter hurting herself. I am at a loss and don't want to lose them. I also don't want them to be hurt because of me either. Is there any hope?? I could be a great dad and husband but we can't find a way to calm her down about me. I am sick with this.

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  • The daughter has a bad impression of you,  because when you had a chance with her mom, you got into arguments with her, and the daughter didn't like that.  The promises that you could be a great husband and father to the family now, would make the daughter doubful, because when you had the opportunity before, you didn't take it.

    Now to be completely honest, every couple gets into arguments and disagreements though. And although you and her mom might have made up, the daughter was not in on that, and only remembers all of the arguing, and it makes her go overboard. She does not want you to enter their home and cause such a huge disturbance in their life.

    Maybe try sitting down with her and her mom and have an honest conversation. Maybe that can help clear the air.  

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  • The daughter has a bad impression of you,  because when you had a chance with her mom, you got into arguments with her, and the daughter didn't like that.  The promises that you could be a great husband and father to the family now, would make the daughter doubful, because when you had the opportunity before, you didn't take it.

    Now to be completely honest, every couple gets into arguments and disagreements though. And although you and her mom might have made up, the daughter was not in on that, and only remembers all of the arguing, and it makes her go overboard. She does not want you to enter their home and cause such a huge disturbance in their life.

    Maybe try sitting down with her and her mom and have an honest conversation. Maybe that can help clear the air.  

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