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Suffocating loneliness

EuanF

It's becoming more and more common for me to have intense, consuming waves of suffocating loneliness. 

I know it's normal to feel this sometimes, especially given I am still mourning the very recent loss of a 4 and a half year long relationship. My ex partner was truly my best friend, and if I'm honest, my only friend. So I'm now left with crushing feelings of loneliness. I have my mum and sister, but there's a longing for true and meaningful connections with friends that I just don't have.

Ive been pushing myself to meet people, but sometimes the surface level conversation you have to have with new people you meet just highlights further to me the lack of deep connection I crave. It just feels so heavy. I really feel like I don't know how to connect with people, or reach out with the real me. 

I have moments where the loneliness isn't as strong. I get out to nature, take moments to feel present, feel a part of something bigger. But its still there, a dull ache.

Anyway, this post became a lot sadder than I first intended. Please feel free to share your own experiences of loneliness and of craving connection. 

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  • Well, I have no one at all Euan. No friends, no close family, never had a girlfriend. I’d give all my worldly possessions to have a partner.

    Most of the time I go through life a bit robotically and try not to think about it but there are times, at least every week, when the loneliness is overwhelming and I feel a sense of panic at the thought of living the rest of my life like this.

    But you can have hope. You’ve proven you can build those human connections. Might not be easy, might not even be what you want until you’re over your previous relationship, but you can do it and you will do it again.

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  • Well, I have no one at all Euan. No friends, no close family, never had a girlfriend. I’d give all my worldly possessions to have a partner.

    Most of the time I go through life a bit robotically and try not to think about it but there are times, at least every week, when the loneliness is overwhelming and I feel a sense of panic at the thought of living the rest of my life like this.

    But you can have hope. You’ve proven you can build those human connections. Might not be easy, might not even be what you want until you’re over your previous relationship, but you can do it and you will do it again.

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