For over a week now, I've had a strong suspicion that I have been 'ghosted' by someone I have known for approximately 18 months. Like me, this person is also autistic, and I'm aware that depending on their mood, they can be prone to jumping to the wrong conclusion and making snap decisions as a result.
This all started after the individual in question had notified me via text message that a collection of e-mails they had sent me had been blocked. I knew that I hadn't blocked them, and because I had a hunch they had been drinking, I felt it was highly probable that they had misspelled my e-mail address. That's the only reason I could think of to explain why those e-mails had been blocked. After asking if they had spelled my e-mail address correctly, they texted back my e-mail address, which I could see they had misspelled. I then texted back my e-mail address and told them to check their spelling.
It's unclear whether this person had received and read my text message, as I have heard nothing more from them. Based on past experience, I feel it is entirely possible that if they were of the mindset that I had intentionally blocked them from e-mailing me, this would have been enough for them to decide to block and ghost me. Based on past experience, I know that once they have convinced themself of something, it can sometimes take weeks or even months for them to back down and accept they were wrong.
As things stand, I feel there is little point in me texting or e-mailing this person. If they have blocked me, then they obviously won't receive any text messages or e-mails I send. In addition, as I use a PAYG mobile phone, it also means wasting what little credit is left on it. Slight tangent, but the last time I topped up the credit was over a year ago. I had put on £10, and have £1.36 left, which just goes to show how infrequently I use my mobile.
Anyway, part of me is wondering whether to send a letter to this person via snail mail. Whilst there is no guarantee they will read it, at least I know Royal Mail will deliver it. When it comes to people I care about, such as friends, I am the kind of person who will fight to clear up any misunderstandings. From my perspective, if there has been a misunderstanding that can be resolved, investing my time and effort in sending a letter will be worth it. The worst that can happen is that I'll hear nothing back, but at least I will know where I stand.
There is a BUT though... During the past 18 months, I have frequently felt that it has generally tended to be me putting in the bulk of the effort, and that it has generally been me giving the other person the benefit of the doubt. After 18 months, there is a large part of me that thinks, "Can I really be bothered to put the effort in and write that letter?"
