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When friendship works

Sporadic Sparkly

Since I joined NAS approximately 18 months ago, I have been fortunate enough to become acquainted with a handful of members, whom I now consider to be really good friends. Whilst we might not share the same opinions and have sometimes misunderstood each other, we have never fallen out.

These friends have witnessed me at my best, and have also been there to support me when I have been at rock bottom. I feel truly blessed to have these friends. Hugging

I have since edited my original post.

Regrettably, rather than focusing on the friends who genuinely want me in their lives, I had allowed myself to become fixated on one particular 'friendship' that had always been... er... complicated. Those who know me will not be surprised to know that I had been wallowing in self-pity and feeling like a victim, in addition to feeling like a fool.

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  • I didn't see your original post Sparkly, but those are lovely words you've put in the first part, and I feel similarly blessed for the same reason. 

    As for your last paragraph... I've never perceived you as wallowing, in fact you have an inspiring ability to... not bounce back exactly, but openly and honestly work your way through stuff in what amounts to a pretty healthy process of recovery overall. You've not had it easy on a few fronts over the last year or two and by not disguising your hurt while still finding resilience I'm sure you've helped a lot of people feel less alone. I think that's at least as generous as it is self-focused, and it clearly helps you to 'think aloud' on here. I hope it will continue to. 

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  • I didn't see your original post Sparkly, but those are lovely words you've put in the first part, and I feel similarly blessed for the same reason. 

    As for your last paragraph... I've never perceived you as wallowing, in fact you have an inspiring ability to... not bounce back exactly, but openly and honestly work your way through stuff in what amounts to a pretty healthy process of recovery overall. You've not had it easy on a few fronts over the last year or two and by not disguising your hurt while still finding resilience I'm sure you've helped a lot of people feel less alone. I think that's at least as generous as it is self-focused, and it clearly helps you to 'think aloud' on here. I hope it will continue to. 

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  • in reply to Shardovan

    Thank you, Shardovan.

    I remember a time last year when I had contemplated leaving this place, even though I didn't want to because I knew I would miss my NAS friends. When I expressed my thoughts and fears, it very much felt as though I was on the receiving end of a supportive and protective group hug. Since then, there have been plenty of other occasions when I've been on the receiving end of a group hug that helps to lift my spirits.