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Dogtooth

Hi all,

Just want to tell this. Thats all. 

Last night i spoke to my mum. We had a nice chat, and i recommended a film i genuinely thought she would like. 

About an hour later i get a text from her that just says 'what the F'. No kiss or anything. 

So i reply with ' I thought you would have liked it'. 

I get one word back. Again no kiss. 'Idiot'. 

So this hurt quite badly. More than i think it should, and my go to is self harm. 

Im now at work and have taken the dressing off and have just glued my leg shut. Im ok. So moderators you dont need to send me a message. Im not badly hurt. 

I feel a little foolish noiw though. I realise my reaction was quick and responsive and i didnt think through the situation properly. My mum has a warped sense of humour, like myself, and im certain she was joking. Just last night it stung me quite badly to just see that one word 'idiot' from my mum. 

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  • Thank you for your replies. 

    So my parents are oddballs to say the least. They dont believe in my diagnosis, and if i told my mum she upset me she would say to toughen up. Ive had it my whole life. 

    As to offending her, i can honestly say there was nothing in the film i can see that would have offended her. Im sure she was just playing around. 

    Its me that needs to change. I have to pause and think before i act. 

    On top of it all i now have to hide a fresh wound from my wife. She hates my self harm and made me promise to stop. 

    Sometimes life feels a bit pointlessly hard lol. 

    I'll be fine. 

    Thank you again. 

  • in reply to Dogtooth
    Dogtooth said:
    She hates my self harm and made me promise to stop. 

    If you are not already doing this, I can strongly recommend getting yourself a therapist to work through this stuff. Sometimes it takes someone from outside your own little world to help you look at things, put them in perspective and find the resolve to tackle the root cause of the problems.

    It can make life less hard, but it should help you and earn you some respect from your wife for doing something actively about it.

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  • in reply to Dogtooth
    Dogtooth said:
    She hates my self harm and made me promise to stop. 

    If you are not already doing this, I can strongly recommend getting yourself a therapist to work through this stuff. Sometimes it takes someone from outside your own little world to help you look at things, put them in perspective and find the resolve to tackle the root cause of the problems.

    It can make life less hard, but it should help you and earn you some respect from your wife for doing something actively about it.

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