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Knee Jerk bad reaction

Dogtooth

Hi all,

Just want to tell this. Thats all. 

Last night i spoke to my mum. We had a nice chat, and i recommended a film i genuinely thought she would like. 

About an hour later i get a text from her that just says 'what the F'. No kiss or anything. 

So i reply with ' I thought you would have liked it'. 

I get one word back. Again no kiss. 'Idiot'. 

So this hurt quite badly. More than i think it should, and my go to is self harm. 

Im now at work and have taken the dressing off and have just glued my leg shut. Im ok. So moderators you dont need to send me a message. Im not badly hurt. 

I feel a little foolish noiw though. I realise my reaction was quick and responsive and i didnt think through the situation properly. My mum has a warped sense of humour, like myself, and im certain she was joking. Just last night it stung me quite badly to just see that one word 'idiot' from my mum. 

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  • Dogtooth said:
    About an hour later i get a text from her that just says 'what the F'. No kiss or anything. 

    Do you think there could have been content in the film that could be triggering for her?

    Sometimes we just recall the bits that appealed to us and skip over a scene that could have been upsetting to them (eg a death scene that reflected a life experience she is still sensitive to, mysogony when she has strong feminist views, starring an actor she detests (Russel Brand being flavour of the hour) etc?

    The lack of any emoticons in her response when she knows you are not great at reading between the lines is a pretty good indicator she was offended so maybe say "sorry if you didn't like it. I don't understand why and would like to know so I don't hurt you in future".

    If it was just a joke then she will probably feel bad and explain then - more importantly - make it clearer in future.

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  • Dogtooth said:
    About an hour later i get a text from her that just says 'what the F'. No kiss or anything. 

    Do you think there could have been content in the film that could be triggering for her?

    Sometimes we just recall the bits that appealed to us and skip over a scene that could have been upsetting to them (eg a death scene that reflected a life experience she is still sensitive to, mysogony when she has strong feminist views, starring an actor she detests (Russel Brand being flavour of the hour) etc?

    The lack of any emoticons in her response when she knows you are not great at reading between the lines is a pretty good indicator she was offended so maybe say "sorry if you didn't like it. I don't understand why and would like to know so I don't hurt you in future".

    If it was just a joke then she will probably feel bad and explain then - more importantly - make it clearer in future.

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