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Need some tips for coping with past school trauma

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At Primary School I always felt different.  I didn't understand why I couldn't play with others.  I knew the others found me odd. I also didn't have a diagnosis until I got to high school so me nor my parents knew.  I think I buried the pain for a long long time but recently it's started to really affect me.   I felt so alone.  I remember sitting on a bench in the playground watching everyone laughing and having fun and I couldn't join it.  I still feel alone.

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  • This will probably sound pathetic. 48 years on from leaving school the bullying still affects me. I've mentioned it online more than a few times,but only recently opened up to my care coordinator come depot nurse. I saw physical and sexual abuse as trauma, and that it would be out of order seeing bullying as traumatic. However after I'd spoken a few sentences my cc come dn said 'bullying related trauma' .

  • in reply to Deleted User

    I also struggle to think of my childhood experiences (at home and school) as traumatic because, as you say, I feel that "No one hit me or sexually abused me, how can I call myself traumatised?" But my therapist has said that something can be traumatic if it attacks your sense of self, even if it doesn't lead to "trauma" in the PTSD sense. FWIW, bullying can be very traumatic.

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  • in reply to Deleted User

    I also struggle to think of my childhood experiences (at home and school) as traumatic because, as you say, I feel that "No one hit me or sexually abused me, how can I call myself traumatised?" But my therapist has said that something can be traumatic if it attacks your sense of self, even if it doesn't lead to "trauma" in the PTSD sense. FWIW, bullying can be very traumatic.

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  • in reply to Iain

    Yes, this is what I put in my comment when I said that my therapist told me that trauma is an attack on your sense of self.

  • in reply to Luftmentsch
    Luftmentsch said:
    I feel that "No one hit me or sexually abused me, how can I call myself traumatised?"

    Trauma can come from an accumulation of negative experiences - say you were told every day for a year that you are stupid, ugly and you stink - if this was done by someone in a position of influence over you then this can easily build up to a traumatic result at the end of it.

    The same with the negative experiences we receive at school - being excluded from other groups of our peers, being told we are freaks, laughed at because we talk differently, ridiculed for our interests, left to be picked last in sports because of our poor co-ordination etc.