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Need some tips for coping with past school trauma

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At Primary School I always felt different.  I didn't understand why I couldn't play with others.  I knew the others found me odd. I also didn't have a diagnosis until I got to high school so me nor my parents knew.  I think I buried the pain for a long long time but recently it's started to really affect me.   I felt so alone.  I remember sitting on a bench in the playground watching everyone laughing and having fun and I couldn't join it.  I still feel alone.

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  • This will probably sound pathetic. 48 years on from leaving school the bullying still affects me. I've mentioned it online more than a few times,but only recently opened up to my care coordinator come depot nurse. I saw physical and sexual abuse as trauma, and that it would be out of order seeing bullying as traumatic. However after I'd spoken a few sentences my cc come dn said 'bullying related trauma' .

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  • This will probably sound pathetic. 48 years on from leaving school the bullying still affects me. I've mentioned it online more than a few times,but only recently opened up to my care coordinator come depot nurse. I saw physical and sexual abuse as trauma, and that it would be out of order seeing bullying as traumatic. However after I'd spoken a few sentences my cc come dn said 'bullying related trauma' .

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  • in reply to Deleted User

    I also struggle to think of my childhood experiences (at home and school) as traumatic because, as you say, I feel that "No one hit me or sexually abused me, how can I call myself traumatised?" But my therapist has said that something can be traumatic if it attacks your sense of self, even if it doesn't lead to "trauma" in the PTSD sense. FWIW, bullying can be very traumatic.

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    Unknown said:
    48 years on from leaving school the bullying still affects me.

    Trauma lasts a lifetime if you don't work through it with therapy. It can have an insidious influence on you many decades on as you are finding.

    If you can afford it, I can heartily recommend therapy as you will probably find other traumas in your past that have been blocked off to your concious memory and dealing with these can bring a remarkable improvement in your quality of life.