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Social anxiety and dating

Kim

I’m becoming really down. I’m on antidepressants but I’m struggling. I’ve never experienced love and I feel jealous when I see my cousins with their boyfriends and I’m stuck in this shy socially anxious state. 

Is anyone else struggling with social anxiety and dating?

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  • The last time I dated was around 32 years ago when I first met my wife, back then I had no idea I had autistic tendencies, as that was just me. Prior to that I was mainly single, used to drink a lot to kill my social anxieties, now I know why & I now rarely drink. Neither am I recommending you drink alcohol to feel more comfortable whilst dating. 

    If I were starting a fresh, which to be honest I just don't have the inclination or energy to do now if myself & my wife were to depart company, which I certainly hope we never do. I'd probably look for a hobby which I like & try to associate with similar thinking people, that would be a good start I think. When & if you meet the right person you'll soon understand what "love", is. 

    Don't get me wrong I deeply dislike certain types of socialising still now, but I make extra effort as at times it's important for my wife, too. Some aspects of socialising I try to avoid at all costs, still. I'm still happy to avoid certain situations, as I see no reason to put myself under intense pressure just for the sake of it. 

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  • The last time I dated was around 32 years ago when I first met my wife, back then I had no idea I had autistic tendencies, as that was just me. Prior to that I was mainly single, used to drink a lot to kill my social anxieties, now I know why & I now rarely drink. Neither am I recommending you drink alcohol to feel more comfortable whilst dating. 

    If I were starting a fresh, which to be honest I just don't have the inclination or energy to do now if myself & my wife were to depart company, which I certainly hope we never do. I'd probably look for a hobby which I like & try to associate with similar thinking people, that would be a good start I think. When & if you meet the right person you'll soon understand what "love", is. 

    Don't get me wrong I deeply dislike certain types of socialising still now, but I make extra effort as at times it's important for my wife, too. Some aspects of socialising I try to avoid at all costs, still. I'm still happy to avoid certain situations, as I see no reason to put myself under intense pressure just for the sake of it. 

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