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I feel useless

Ladybug5

I don’t think I’ll ever be able to go to Uni, or form relationships, or get a job, or live independently. I don’t even know if I enjoy or am capable of anything. I know people can be happy living simple lives and not “achieving” anything career wise etc but i have practically no function. I just want to be normal but I can’t do the bare minimum and have no desire to.

I had Uni and a future career planned and I just can’t do it.

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  • Hi, Thank you for posting this - I’m sure many people will be able to relate to what you say. I have a family member who has often felt this way. I agree with some of the comments about breaking things down into very small steps forward - even the tiniest steps can be a real achievement and build your confidence (I know this from my own experience). You’re not alone - many autistic people feel this way. Try not to blame yourself for finding life so difficult - being autistic can make so many parts of everyday life really challenging. Be kind to yourself x 

    Have you got supportive family members? And do you have any other support - such as therapy etc?

  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    Thank you I appreciate it. And yes luckily I do have family that try to be supportive as possible. I’m hoping to be able to go back to therapy this year

  • in reply to Ladybug5

    I’m glad you’ve got a supportive family. I’m having therapy at the moment and it’s helping me (my son is having a more mixed experience of therapy). We’ve both had incredibly tough times these past 2 years - so we really empathise x I really do believe though that there is always hope that things can improve, even after many years of struggle. Hold on in there, and don’t give up, because you deserve to be able to enjoy your life and find happiness. You’ve obviously been through a lot, and I know myself so well how horrible it is to feel stuck and that you don’t know how to move forward in life. But you’re not alone, and in time I’m sure things will change and you’ll find your way x

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  • in reply to Ladybug5

    I’m glad you’ve got a supportive family. I’m having therapy at the moment and it’s helping me (my son is having a more mixed experience of therapy). We’ve both had incredibly tough times these past 2 years - so we really empathise x I really do believe though that there is always hope that things can improve, even after many years of struggle. Hold on in there, and don’t give up, because you deserve to be able to enjoy your life and find happiness. You’ve obviously been through a lot, and I know myself so well how horrible it is to feel stuck and that you don’t know how to move forward in life. But you’re not alone, and in time I’m sure things will change and you’ll find your way x

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