Do you ever feel like all change is bad?

The stage in-which good spontaneous-things stop happening, is around-about the time that spontaneous-things stop happening, which I guess is an unfortunate by-product of long-suffered autism. 
A common-pillar of autism is the Repetitive-Restrictive Behaviours, that autists use to memorise their experiences and learn new-things, executive-function is not a strong-area of autistic-cognition, so we tend to develop rote and procedural cognitive-functions instead.  
This can mean that autistic-people can develop peaks of ability that neurotypical-individuals would never think or need to develop. The downside to that is that the more-competent we become with those spared-abilities, the more we restrict ourselves from new-experiences and pull-away from the community. So alongside the loneliness that we feel for developing interests and abilities that few others hold, it can also take a tremendous-effort from our neurotypical close-carers and peers, to bring us out-of-our-shell and onto a path of development and spontaneity. 
But all is not lost Peter, as you find yourself on a platform that is composed of a concentrate of the 1.5% of society who can most-empathise with you, but more than that we are the 1% of the 1.5% that are interested in sharing their stories and interestedly-listening to yours.
So share your feelings and map your woes, because the low will pass and the vibes will flow; the more you effectively-communicate and the more you willingly-offload, the more proactive you will feel. Enjoyment is most-easy found in the realm of spontaneity, if we can pique your interest as opposed to your sorrow then you’ll be more likely to find enjoyment, and we’ll be happier because we get to observe you pursue it..! So good-luck and carry-on..!

The problem is I’ve been actively going out of my way to try new things and the problem is they all suck. Or in some cases people just tell me I’m not allowed to do them.

Well what are some of the new-things you were interested in, if I may be so bold..?

To be fair, this could’ve been a discussion of its own, there are a multitude of tangents that this one could take..:’D

Then that makes you a ‘citizen’, checking your impulses to-my-mind is to mute your desires, if you could not do that in a civilised-society then they would do it for you and your standing would likely be diminished, which would limit your social-mobility.. and thus minimise the harm you do to the community.

DeSpereaux said:

In order to live in the world you have to be prepared to face it, only the meek can do that successfully, you cannot be meek if you do not have a sword to unsheath.

That is the arguement the right wing in the USA use to limit gun control - you need guns to be able to stop other people with guns etc.

In the UK there is very strict gun control and even the police have very few gun carriers yet the gun crime rate in the UK is very low, a tiny fraction of what the USA has.

I believe you don't need those teeth or thorns is the society you live in has the appropriate controls to require you to need them, and indeed in relation to autism there are safeguards in place and being added that should ensure we do not need to develop our own aggressive responses.

I can continue to elaborate, with prompting, so feel free..:)

It’s got nothing to do with ‘evil’, it is not ‘evil’ that the world is monsterous, just as it is not evil that lion has teeth or a rose has thorns, it is surely tragic but not evil.  
In order to live in the world you have to be prepared to face it, only the meek can do that successfully, you cannot be meek if you do not have a sword to unsheath.
Evil is that extra-flair that the out-of-control bring into the world, men also have to be prepared for that, if they are to inherit the earth as-it-were..

A good point.

There are times when I have thoughts that I would consider monsterous (eg there are times when I see a drug addled teen robbing an old grannie on the local TV and I wish I could take an iron bar to the teens head, but I hate myself for feeling that way.

There are probably reasons of addiction and abuse leading to the act and who knows if that old grannie hadn't been abusing children her whole life etc - I should not jump to a conclusion on minimal evidence and an extreme reaction of violence will not solve much and will just end up with me in prison.

Not acting on them does not mean they should not be there. Their very presence limits the potential for fairness and deceny in society.

DeSpereaux said:

Because the world is monsterous..

Is that flawed logic?

The world is pretty much a corrupt place but it does not mean we should be corrupt ourselves to perpetuate that evil. Likewise I would suspect that perpetrating the monstorous behaviour (ie inhuman by definition) is not a way to better society.

I assume there are other arguements at play here and I'm curious as to what they are - thanks for engaging in a discourse about it as I know my view is only one take on it.

I think the notion of restraining acting on ones desires is very different from 'muting' a desire. If I'm hungry walking through the supermarket I don't pick up food and start eating on the way to the check out. Doesn't stop me being hungry though.

Because the world is monsterous..

DeSpereaux said:

men SHOULD be monsters,

I'm genuinely curious as to why you think this.

I think that a person is out of control if they cannot mute their desire, don’t get me wrong men SHOULD be monsters, but monsters that can mute themselves and punish themselves, monsters that can’t mute themselves need to be prevented.. otherwise society can’t function rightly..

I think that a person is out of control if they cannot mute their desire, don’t get me wrong men SHOULD be monsters, but monsters that can mute themselves and punish themselves, monsters that can’t mute themselves need to be prevented.. otherwise society can’t function rightly..

To be fair, this could’ve been a discussion of its own, there are a multitude of tangents that this one could take..:’D

Then that makes you a ‘citizen’, checking your impulses to-my-mind is to mute your desires, if you could not do that in a civilised-society then they would do it for you and your standing would likely be diminished, which would limit your social-mobility.. and thus minimise the harm you do to the community.

DeSpereaux said:

In order to live in the world you have to be prepared to face it, only the meek can do that successfully, you cannot be meek if you do not have a sword to unsheath.

That is the arguement the right wing in the USA use to limit gun control - you need guns to be able to stop other people with guns etc.

In the UK there is very strict gun control and even the police have very few gun carriers yet the gun crime rate in the UK is very low, a tiny fraction of what the USA has.

I believe you don't need those teeth or thorns is the society you live in has the appropriate controls to require you to need them, and indeed in relation to autism there are safeguards in place and being added that should ensure we do not need to develop our own aggressive responses.

I can continue to elaborate, with prompting, so feel free..:)

It’s got nothing to do with ‘evil’, it is not ‘evil’ that the world is monsterous, just as it is not evil that lion has teeth or a rose has thorns, it is surely tragic but not evil.  
In order to live in the world you have to be prepared to face it, only the meek can do that successfully, you cannot be meek if you do not have a sword to unsheath.
Evil is that extra-flair that the out-of-control bring into the world, men also have to be prepared for that, if they are to inherit the earth as-it-were..

A good point.

There are times when I have thoughts that I would consider monsterous (eg there are times when I see a drug addled teen robbing an old grannie on the local TV and I wish I could take an iron bar to the teens head, but I hate myself for feeling that way.

There are probably reasons of addiction and abuse leading to the act and who knows if that old grannie hadn't been abusing children her whole life etc - I should not jump to a conclusion on minimal evidence and an extreme reaction of violence will not solve much and will just end up with me in prison.

Not acting on them does not mean they should not be there. Their very presence limits the potential for fairness and deceny in society.

DeSpereaux said:

Because the world is monsterous..

Is that flawed logic?

The world is pretty much a corrupt place but it does not mean we should be corrupt ourselves to perpetuate that evil. Likewise I would suspect that perpetrating the monstorous behaviour (ie inhuman by definition) is not a way to better society.

I assume there are other arguements at play here and I'm curious as to what they are - thanks for engaging in a discourse about it as I know my view is only one take on it.

I think the notion of restraining acting on ones desires is very different from 'muting' a desire. If I'm hungry walking through the supermarket I don't pick up food and start eating on the way to the check out. Doesn't stop me being hungry though.

Because the world is monsterous..

DeSpereaux said:

men SHOULD be monsters,

I'm genuinely curious as to why you think this.