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Do you ever cry?

Oakling

Do you ever cry?

It is such a rare occurrence for me, but today I did when I was exercising in my garage gym. I think I know why I did, but often understanding my emotions can be a bit confusing for me.

I think many things got on top of me in this instance (both positive and negative feelings) that it came out in this way. It’s quite an intense thing really.

I just wondered what everyone’s experiences with this was as I know everyone is different. 

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  • I do cry, and whilst I'm usually able to identify the cause, there are occasions when I find that there just doesn't seem to be any rational explanation for it.

    When I cry, it's usually because I'm experiencing a negative emotion (sadness, anger, frustration, etc). However, I have been known to cry as a result of feeling intense positive emotions (crying with happiness).

    One thing I do know is that I will actively go out of my way to avoid crying in public. I remember one particular occasion when I found myself in a situation that caused me to feel completely desperate, helpless, and frustrated. I desperately wanted to cry, but I was in an open-plan office and had no desire to draw attention to myself by breaking down in tears. The result was that I stormed out of the building and held in the tears until after I arrived home.

    Sometimes, I find myself in situations where I feel that my response should be to cry, and I question if there is something wrong with me because I'm not.

  • in reply to Sporadic Sparkly
    Sporadic Sparkly said:
    I do cry, and whilst I'm usually able to identify the cause, there are occasions when I find that there just doesn't seem to be any rational explanation for it.

    One rational explanation for unexpected bouts of crying usually involves repressed tears from our past..

    Sporadic Sparkly said:
    Sometimes, I find myself in situations where I feel that my response should be to cry, and I question if there is something wrong with me because I'm not.

    Needing to cry and repressing it can become as such a habitual pattern or learnt response.

  • in reply to Deepthought
    Deepthought said:
    Needing to cry and repressing it can become as such a habitual pattern or learnt response.

    Whilst I'm in agreement with that, I feel that what I'd written may have been misinterpreted and could have been worded better. I have friends that have ended up in tears after watching something on TV (an episode of Long Lost Family for example). Whilst I may have been left feeling happy or sad for the people featured in the episode, it's not been to the extent that I've felt so emotionally moved that I want to cry.

    Therefore, when I know other people have cried about something that hasn't had the same effect on me, this is what causes me to momentarily wonder if there's something wrong with me. It's not that I feel a need to cry and am repressing it, it's more the fact that I don't feel the need to cry.

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  • in reply to Deepthought
    Deepthought said:
    Needing to cry and repressing it can become as such a habitual pattern or learnt response.

    Whilst I'm in agreement with that, I feel that what I'd written may have been misinterpreted and could have been worded better. I have friends that have ended up in tears after watching something on TV (an episode of Long Lost Family for example). Whilst I may have been left feeling happy or sad for the people featured in the episode, it's not been to the extent that I've felt so emotionally moved that I want to cry.

    Therefore, when I know other people have cried about something that hasn't had the same effect on me, this is what causes me to momentarily wonder if there's something wrong with me. It's not that I feel a need to cry and am repressing it, it's more the fact that I don't feel the need to cry.

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