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Do you ever cry?

Oakling

Do you ever cry?

It is such a rare occurrence for me, but today I did when I was exercising in my garage gym. I think I know why I did, but often understanding my emotions can be a bit confusing for me.

I think many things got on top of me in this instance (both positive and negative feelings) that it came out in this way. It’s quite an intense thing really.

I just wondered what everyone’s experiences with this was as I know everyone is different. 

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  • Oakling said:
    I think I know why I did, but often understanding my emotions can be a bit confusing for me.

    Same here - had major event like grandparents, pets and even my father dying and not a tear.

    Yet watching Big Fish (the film) had me in tears.

    I can see the most harrowing of news stories and nothing, but some stories of self sacrefice for others will have me welling up.

    I believe it is a common symptom of autism called Alexithymia.

    A quote from the book by Jason Thompson - Emotionally Dumb -An Overview of Alexithymia

    The alexithymic person is unable to discriminate the usual nuances of emotional life, leading to immense difficulties in personal and interpersonal functioning.

    To feel and speak one’s emotions seems a most basic human ability, so it is hard to imagine individuals incapable of recognizing and speaking about their most basic feelings.

  • in reply to Iain

    Thank you for your reply. I can relate to a lot of what you’ve said here. I’ve often suspected alexithymia to be honest. What I’ve read certainly seems to point that way anyway.

    Emotions are very funny things to try and pin down. Their very abstract nature makes them hard to describe and identify. That said, I certainly feel everything in a very vivid and intense way, often much later after an event. Which in turn, make identifying things quite tricky.

    Recently I’ve seen some wonderful compassion and empathy on display and some equally awful stuff too. The mix probably got a bit much today and came out in that way. Caught me off guard, but I survived. Just ended up with a damp face is all!

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  • in reply to Iain

    Thank you for your reply. I can relate to a lot of what you’ve said here. I’ve often suspected alexithymia to be honest. What I’ve read certainly seems to point that way anyway.

    Emotions are very funny things to try and pin down. Their very abstract nature makes them hard to describe and identify. That said, I certainly feel everything in a very vivid and intense way, often much later after an event. Which in turn, make identifying things quite tricky.

    Recently I’ve seen some wonderful compassion and empathy on display and some equally awful stuff too. The mix probably got a bit much today and came out in that way. Caught me off guard, but I survived. Just ended up with a damp face is all!

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