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Mental Health following Diagnosis

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Hello,

I'm new to this community having being diagnosed as an adult with Autism recently, apologies if I get any terminology or anything else incorrect as I'm quite clueless on this at the moment.

It's just been a week or so but it's been difficult since in my mind. I feel surprised at how people don't really seem interested or want to know more (aside from my partner.) It's probably arrogant to expect people to want to talk to me about it but I'm just surprised they haven't really and feel a little alone with it.

I suppose it has been quite important for me to find this out and it's a huge deal for me, I burnt out a year or so ago and was out of work for 3 months, been confused and lost for a long time with depression.

I suppose it's solipsistic to expect it to be as huge for others as it is for me but I'd welcome reading others experience of how others reacted to their diagnosis and whether ultimately that was really important to you or not.

Thanks for reading.

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  • There's no rush to tell anyone. Quite a few people didn't seem interested when I told them, maybe because they couldn't believe it or didn't know what to say. I might as well have just said "isn't it chilly today!" for the response I got and that was also with some healthcare professionals. With others, like colleagues I've learned upon telling them to back it up with "so i need help with / find XY & Z difficult". It didnt make much difference though. I think also, especially with today's culture, there might be a sense people don't want to offend so they don't respond much.

    Despite the awareness, many still have outdated views and the other side is "oh well every ones autistic nowadays" - even if it isnt said directly. So quite often, we wont win. We are still the same person to them as before and after a diagnosis. When we spend so long searching for answers about ourselves and finally getting them, it's a massive deal to us but unless the other person is going through something similar they are not going to have a clue how this feels. A week or two isn't a long time. It takes time to integrate this new perspective into your life. Welcome to the team!

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Thanks, that advice is really useful. I think I agree, no need to tell people too quickly, think I should keep it just for me for a while.

    I'm too impatient to get things working well and it just takes time!

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