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Mental Health following Diagnosis

Eyes

Hello,

I'm new to this community having being diagnosed as an adult with Autism recently, apologies if I get any terminology or anything else incorrect as I'm quite clueless on this at the moment.

It's just been a week or so but it's been difficult since in my mind. I feel surprised at how people don't really seem interested or want to know more (aside from my partner.) It's probably arrogant to expect people to want to talk to me about it but I'm just surprised they haven't really and feel a little alone with it.

I suppose it has been quite important for me to find this out and it's a huge deal for me, I burnt out a year or so ago and was out of work for 3 months, been confused and lost for a long time with depression.

I suppose it's solipsistic to expect it to be as huge for others as it is for me but I'd welcome reading others experience of how others reacted to their diagnosis and whether ultimately that was really important to you or not.

Thanks for reading.

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  • My story is similar to yours. I persued a diagnosis for 6 months after many long years of depression, and job difficulties. I've been luckly to of found neurodivergent (aka neuro spicy) friends who are making their way through their jounreys which has helped. 

    The first day I was diagnosed I was releived, felt validated. I appoligised to my kid self and felt this brought clarity. But the next day my head was crowded with new questions and new context, it really shook my boat. I couldn't work, be arround strangers. I just needed safety and quiet contemplation. This is the third day. I'm emotionally and mentally sore but making sure my self-care is met. 

    My family are supportive but, as you've found, they dunno what it all means or how to react. Even my spicy Mum is like "yeah man, makes sense, that's cool though". I think it was always going to mean most to myself than anyone else. What I didn't expect was the word "disabled" and the legal disclosure which has me quite mixed up. I know it's all there for support. Its just very fresh. 

  • in reply to Maggie

    Thanks Maggie, that sounds familiar. I'm starting to see it's similar with other people and perhaps it's time for me not to look to others to validate my existence but to use my own mind to go forward with what I want to do.

    Really appreciate your response and for teaching me the term 'neuro-spicy'!

  • in reply to Eyes

    Sounds like you are doing your best, and making your own path which is very commendable. This website and it's community alone shows there is support and understanding in this bannanas world, even when it doesn't feel like it or your going through some big stuff. Take it steady <3

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  • in reply to Eyes

    Sounds like you are doing your best, and making your own path which is very commendable. This website and it's community alone shows there is support and understanding in this bannanas world, even when it doesn't feel like it or your going through some big stuff. Take it steady <3

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