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Mental Health following Diagnosis

Eyes

Hello,

I'm new to this community having being diagnosed as an adult with Autism recently, apologies if I get any terminology or anything else incorrect as I'm quite clueless on this at the moment.

It's just been a week or so but it's been difficult since in my mind. I feel surprised at how people don't really seem interested or want to know more (aside from my partner.) It's probably arrogant to expect people to want to talk to me about it but I'm just surprised they haven't really and feel a little alone with it.

I suppose it has been quite important for me to find this out and it's a huge deal for me, I burnt out a year or so ago and was out of work for 3 months, been confused and lost for a long time with depression.

I suppose it's solipsistic to expect it to be as huge for others as it is for me but I'd welcome reading others experience of how others reacted to their diagnosis and whether ultimately that was really important to you or not.

Thanks for reading.

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  • Hello again Eyes,

    Generally, I found that either people did not care - or else certainly did not wish to discuss it.  A couple of people cut me out of their lives completely upon hearing my news (that surprised me and hurt......a lot !)  I went through a few experimental phases of "trying out" new stuff with my new-found knowledge....but found that my aspirations for a new "autistic life" were a bit vacuous.  Generally, I have found that expressly mentioning autism is a recipe for confusion and complication in dealings with others.  Accordingly, I've settled back down and now (outwardly) find myself basically "being" the same unusual person that I have always been, but with one very important difference = I am calmer in a way that I did not think possible.  It does now all make sense.

    I have found this forum to be populated with many people - all different.  I think we have a commonality of lived experience that enables us to know that we are not alone in our own weird ways and individualistic wonders.  We all communicate differently but seem to often share a common 'mode of thinking'.  Some bona fide madness permeates between some of us - and there are some undoubted bonds of friendship between some of us too.  This forum is a good place - I agree with Debbie.

    Bedtime.

    Number.

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  • Hello again Eyes,

    Generally, I found that either people did not care - or else certainly did not wish to discuss it.  A couple of people cut me out of their lives completely upon hearing my news (that surprised me and hurt......a lot !)  I went through a few experimental phases of "trying out" new stuff with my new-found knowledge....but found that my aspirations for a new "autistic life" were a bit vacuous.  Generally, I have found that expressly mentioning autism is a recipe for confusion and complication in dealings with others.  Accordingly, I've settled back down and now (outwardly) find myself basically "being" the same unusual person that I have always been, but with one very important difference = I am calmer in a way that I did not think possible.  It does now all make sense.

    I have found this forum to be populated with many people - all different.  I think we have a commonality of lived experience that enables us to know that we are not alone in our own weird ways and individualistic wonders.  We all communicate differently but seem to often share a common 'mode of thinking'.  Some bona fide madness permeates between some of us - and there are some undoubted bonds of friendship between some of us too.  This forum is a good place - I agree with Debbie.

    Bedtime.

    Number.

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