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Touay

Was I better off when i didn't know I was autistic, when I just felt I was so broken that I couldn't interact with people, so much so that I gave up socializing and was dead inside?

I now have to live the heartbreak that I will never be able to read people, never see an expression of love toward me .... and so much more ...  

...  a rough few days ...

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  • It doesn't necessarily have to be so negative. Some of us do learn how to read people, we just have to take it on as a special interest and do it consciously rather than subconsciously! An alternate thought, have you tried to interact face to face with autistic people? The double empathy problem suggests we can read each other in ways NTs can't read us.

    So don't give up on being able to read people, use your knowledge of your autism as a tool to find the way to solve your problem. You couldn't do it before, but didn't know why, now you know why, let knowledge be power and use it to find a solution.

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  • It doesn't necessarily have to be so negative. Some of us do learn how to read people, we just have to take it on as a special interest and do it consciously rather than subconsciously! An alternate thought, have you tried to interact face to face with autistic people? The double empathy problem suggests we can read each other in ways NTs can't read us.

    So don't give up on being able to read people, use your knowledge of your autism as a tool to find the way to solve your problem. You couldn't do it before, but didn't know why, now you know why, let knowledge be power and use it to find a solution.

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  • in reply to AuTriker

    Thanks.  I am hoping things will improve, but i am having a rough time of it at the moment.

    Since i gave up on being social it was in some way easier as i was ... dead inside.  Having now done a deep dive on Autism, my issues and past failures, I am profoundly aware of my issues and it has taken away that emotional dead-ness ... 

    I have been to one autistic meetup ... it was good.