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Answering "How are you?"

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I generally find the concept of lying abhorrent, so dread the question, especially when I am not OK - which happens often.

I have sometimes paused to think about the answer, which has led to "What's wrong?", to which my answer has been, cryptically, "it's complicated". End of conversation.

It's not that I don't want to talk about it, I do. I just don't feel comfortable in opening up, especially the risk of not being asked again, and generally ignored in the future.

Is it just me?

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  • I usually give the honest answer. Actually I was once accused of emotional blackmail for doing so!

    Sometimes I say "Do you want the honest answer?" Then if they say no I'll say "Oh well in that case I'm outrageously happy thanks!"

    I used to try to be positive and honest by saying "Trying to be all right". I'm too depressed to even say that now, and I'm not sure it is honest anymore as I've about given up even trying. I usually just say "Lonely" now.

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  • I usually give the honest answer. Actually I was once accused of emotional blackmail for doing so!

    Sometimes I say "Do you want the honest answer?" Then if they say no I'll say "Oh well in that case I'm outrageously happy thanks!"

    I used to try to be positive and honest by saying "Trying to be all right". I'm too depressed to even say that now, and I'm not sure it is honest anymore as I've about given up even trying. I usually just say "Lonely" now.

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