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Answering "How are you?"

AC

I generally find the concept of lying abhorrent, so dread the question, especially when I am not OK - which happens often.

I have sometimes paused to think about the answer, which has led to "What's wrong?", to which my answer has been, cryptically, "it's complicated". End of conversation.

It's not that I don't want to talk about it, I do. I just don't feel comfortable in opening up, especially the risk of not being asked again, and generally ignored in the future.

Is it just me?

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  • I try to think of it as acting rather than lying: I'm not being dishonest to somebody about something important, I'm just playing my part in them getting their daily quota of social interactions.

    I had to quite literally learn scripts and rules for small talk by lurking in the break room at my old job and treating my colleagues like a nature documentary, so to me it really does feel like saying "good thanks, how are you" is just me showing that I learned my lines!

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  • I try to think of it as acting rather than lying: I'm not being dishonest to somebody about something important, I'm just playing my part in them getting their daily quota of social interactions.

    I had to quite literally learn scripts and rules for small talk by lurking in the break room at my old job and treating my colleagues like a nature documentary, so to me it really does feel like saying "good thanks, how are you" is just me showing that I learned my lines!

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