The plate dispenser theory of issues, trauma and heartache.

 Have you ever gone to a cafe or restaurant and seen one of these things. On the top it seems like there are 3 or 2 plates. But actually there is a spring under the plates and a long shaft they can descend into. There could be 3 plates, or 13, or 20 or more. It seems to me this is the perfect metaphor for the traumas and personal issues that stick to you. To those observing you from a distance it seems you are dealing with 2 or 3 big crisis or emotional issues. It even feels that way to you because the latest fire you've been fighting has forced you to shelve the issues you were wrestling. But if you are fortunate enough to take a plate off the stack you'll find the ones beneath it still there even things from years ago. Over the years it gets deeper and deeper. And everyone around you just assumes all you need to do is deal with the 3 plates. They don't see the heartache from 10 or 20 years ago that's going to emerge if enough of the stack gets taken off you that you can decompress. And you get to the point where it feels like it will never end. You'll never has resolution. And things will never get better because people can't see what you're really battling and even if they could they wouldn't know how to help. It's all below the surface to them.

Does any of this make sense? Can you relate to it?

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  • Life is a Warzone; which began in the Schools.

    Promising minds have self-loathing installed into them; up to the point they couldn't, or wouldn't, take anymore.

    We're like Swans. Gracious on the outside, but paddling frantically underneath.

    The whole approach to Mental Health is a process of false optimism; as if they're mandating Zen Buddhism. Men died so that our country shall remain Christian. The Lord is our Soruce.

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  • Life is a Warzone; which began in the Schools.

    Promising minds have self-loathing installed into them; up to the point they couldn't, or wouldn't, take anymore.

    We're like Swans. Gracious on the outside, but paddling frantically underneath.

    The whole approach to Mental Health is a process of false optimism; as if they're mandating Zen Buddhism. Men died so that our country shall remain Christian. The Lord is our Soruce.

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