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How to cope when there is so much uncertainty plus a lot of change coming up and you have no energy anymore.

Ann :)

Hi, I'm struggling a lot right now with burnout- even incapable of going to work at the moment but the time off has not been relaxing at all as there were first lots of very important decisions to take, then when I finally decided, I realised the option I picked might not happen and I am trying to sort that out but it is pretty much out of my hands and I just need to wait and see what happens- The uncertainty is driving me crazy and I there is not much I can do about it but it means I cannot plan next steps and is causing insane amounts of stress as I want it to work out so badly. I need a goal and I need something positive to focus on and most of all I need this uncertainty to end. 

Now I also have to move to a new flat in 2 days and I have all that to sort out and I just can't cope with more change and hurdles. There are so many issues and even things that should not be huge issues (like possibly not getting permission to install the wifi so not having internet) are just too much. My physical health is a disaster, I am fading away but when I try to eat more I get such awful digestive issues that it is even worse and harder to bear. 

I don't know what else to do anymore and how I can cope with the constant panic inside me which is always there and then rises to crisis levels a few times a day where I just start sobbing or can't breathe anymore. 

How can I cope with change and uncertainty when I have no energy? I desperately need the stress to go so that I can have a chance to recover but noone can sort these things out for me. I am all alone and I can't cope.

Does anyone have any techniques or ideas on how I can manage this anxiety and somehow keep going? I just don't know what to do anymore. I am desperate. 

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  • I just thought...

    You're moving very soon, and big change and upheaval aside, could you perhaps try to think of it as a new chapter?

    Tell yourself something like "this is a new chapter in my life, and though things will be tough, I can do this, one step at a time!"

    I know it's not a magic wand, but perhaps it can help to ground you in those panic moments.

    And maybe we can help you break down other things into bite size pieces? 

  • in reply to Pikl

    Hi, thanks I like that idea, though it's a bit hard to put into practice as if my wish/plan (it's a PhD position I really want to take but I might not be able to now due to a fee status issue) works out, I'll have to move again in about 2 months.... But I really like the idea, especially if it does work out I think that needs to be a new chapter, with a reset button....  I will try to break things down, it's so hard at the moment, I just seem incapable of dealing even with the smallest bump.... and there are a lot of big hurdles going on at the moment .... 

  • in reply to Ann :)

    And everything seems so interconnected that it feels impossible to seperate.

    We are here for the bumps and hurdles. 

    I find, though it's so difficult to admit, that when things get too much and seem so complicated, I just want someone to tell me what to do next, because my brain is in panic mode and nothing makes sense. 

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  • in reply to Ann :)

    And everything seems so interconnected that it feels impossible to seperate.

    We are here for the bumps and hurdles. 

    I find, though it's so difficult to admit, that when things get too much and seem so complicated, I just want someone to tell me what to do next, because my brain is in panic mode and nothing makes sense. 

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