How to cope when there is so much uncertainty plus a lot of change coming up and you have no energy anymore.

Hi, I'm struggling a lot right now with burnout- even incapable of going to work at the moment but the time off has not been relaxing at all as there were first lots of very important decisions to take, then when I finally decided, I realised the option I picked might not happen and I am trying to sort that out but it is pretty much out of my hands and I just need to wait and see what happens- The uncertainty is driving me crazy and I there is not much I can do about it but it means I cannot plan next steps and is causing insane amounts of stress as I want it to work out so badly. I need a goal and I need something positive to focus on and most of all I need this uncertainty to end. 

Now I also have to move to a new flat in 2 days and I have all that to sort out and I just can't cope with more change and hurdles. There are so many issues and even things that should not be huge issues (like possibly not getting permission to install the wifi so not having internet) are just too much. My physical health is a disaster, I am fading away but when I try to eat more I get such awful digestive issues that it is even worse and harder to bear. 

I don't know what else to do anymore and how I can cope with the constant panic inside me which is always there and then rises to crisis levels a few times a day where I just start sobbing or can't breathe anymore. 

How can I cope with change and uncertainty when I have no energy? I desperately need the stress to go so that I can have a chance to recover but noone can sort these things out for me. I am all alone and I can't cope.

Does anyone have any techniques or ideas on how I can manage this anxiety and somehow keep going? I just don't know what to do anymore. I am desperate. 

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  • Ann.  I just "keep swimming".  Whatever you can do to get incrementally closer to something/anything vaguely resembling progress should be considered a win.

    The slightest deviation from anticipated options feels like 913,674 metrics have changed and EVERYTHING needs to be rethought from every conceivable angle.

    Exhausting.  Phantom (but very real) physical manifestations abound.

  • Thanks, yes I have kept swimming for years now.... well at this point I'm more like semi-submerged and only just managing not to sink permanently... It's so hard to motivate myself to keep going when I don't believe anymore that it can get better.... 

    I can relate to the constant thinking- i have wished more than once that there was an off switch for my brain.... 

    I really do think we could make a club- not sure what we would call it... I'm not good with coming up with creative names....  

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  • Thanks, yes I have kept swimming for years now.... well at this point I'm more like semi-submerged and only just managing not to sink permanently... It's so hard to motivate myself to keep going when I don't believe anymore that it can get better.... 

    I can relate to the constant thinking- i have wished more than once that there was an off switch for my brain.... 

    I really do think we could make a club- not sure what we would call it... I'm not good with coming up with creative names....  

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