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I wish I understood my own feelings more

Oakling

Today feels wrong. I feel really off and like things are not right around me, but I don’t know why. I think I am unhappy, but I honestly don’t know yet.

I really wish I could get to grips with things a bit quicker sometimes. Today is one of those instances. I don’t even have the words to talk it through.

In these moments I feel very trapped.

No obvious triggers either which is the frustrating thing. 

Yesterday I was feeling it too, but tried to work through it by staying active and by starting a thread and talking on here about collections and interests. I don’t seem to have the same capacity today.

This is the best I can do at the minute to put some words out there to describe where I am at in this moment in time. I think I wouldn’t manage the same if someone asked how I was in the outside world today. They would encounter a terrible attempt at masking I reckon.

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  • I’ve learned to try to be accepting of the fact that sometimes I’m just having a really tough day (or week, or even month). (Or year!). 
    On one level it helps to look at causes and triggers  - because then you can try and make changes to improve things. But it’s also true that if on some level you can accept feeling ‘bad’ then you don’t add to it by ‘feeling bad about the fact that you feel bad’. That can end up like a vicious circle. 

    I struggle with anxiety and a lot of my problem is that hate the ‘feeling’ and try to fight it (fight or flight) and that only makes it worse.

    I think it can help to try to accept that some of these feelings are just feelings after all - and we can ride them out, and it’s best not to worry about them too much. They will pass. 

  • in reply to Kate Kestrel
    Kate Kestrel said:
    I’ve learned to try to be accepting of the fact that sometimes I’m just having a really tough day (or week, or even month). (Or year!). 

    This is me. I'm in to the (years) of having a tough day. 

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