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Depression Slump

Treevey134777

Hi,

I’ve found myself hitting a depression slump quite often lately. I don’t go out of the house, I don’t talk to anyone and the family don’t understand. I don’t expect them to as I don’t fully understand it. 

I‘m usually okay for a while, then every now and then I go the opposite way. I can’t get to sleep during the night, then I’m asleep all day. I miss phone calls and messages from the family, then I’m made to feel like shite for not being there at everyone will. 

I’ve got absolutely no friends at all, I only have family that I see every now and then. There’s no support groups near me, and I don’t drive so I can access them easily, being on disability and not being able to afford bus fares to go to ones further out. 

I’m starting to hit rock bottom again and I’m scared that I’ll end up doing something stupid again, or not getting back up one of these times. I have no idea what else I can do, the doctors are no help as it’s impossible to get an appointment with them, and when I do they don’t listen to my situation and end up either changing my medications or trying to give me ‘self-help’ leafless that don’t help me at all. If I could help myself, I wouldn’t be in the position I’m in. 

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  • I feel that it's crucial for you to try to make your family understand as best you can. Even if you're occasionally silent or despairing, even if you feel that your issues are difficult to explain clearly, even if you fear your family will doubt, question or dismiss you or your concerns; you *must* persevere. This is because not only will the act of trying possibly help you - as painful and as fitful as the experience may be - but also because your sheer persistence in being heard might pay off in terms of making your family realise that you really need help and support. And then, hopefully, they will make decent efforts alongside you - they might even attend doctors and the like with you which, by their presence alone, obliges such professionals to take you seriously.

    There is strength in numbers. You know how footballers pester referees for favourable consideration of their concerns (genuine or not)?: they do this because, even if the referee dismisses them time and again, the players' persistence causes the ref to pay more attention to events. A similar spirit of persistence might, in your case, lead to professionals' & parents' attention being focused on your very genuine concerns. If they're reluctant, wear them down.

    When a person is in despair, as you are, then every possible solution seems hopeless and doomed in prospect; this is merely a trap of thinking, a self-fulfilling false prophecy, because who can actually predict the future? You *must* try, regardless of doubts and self-doubt.

  • in reply to Steven

    You've just cleared something up for me that I could otherwise have nominated for the 'things I don't understand' thread. Namely the ref/players thing. I'm not into football, but I've seen enough to have been puzzled many time by the acting up that goes nowhere. Or so I thought...

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