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Rapid negative mood from misinterpretation of conversations

NAS64242 over 3 years ago

Any tips on what to do if you suddenly get angry because of what (you think) someone has said?

I find it very difficult to notice / stop when I am in this spiral, until after the event, when I have said something that escalates the situation.

I have noticed that the key symptom / precursor is that my teeth clench (involuntarily), but by then I have pretty much gone down the rabbit hole.

This is an endlessly recurring process that has a highly negative effect on relationships.

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🐝 Bees 🐝 (they/them) Autism resources in bio #stoptheshock #NothingAboutUsWithoutUs over 3 years ago

If things go sideways too quickly I go away and make a cup of tea and finish it at my own pace before I go back and re-read what someone has said. Then I'll think what would this look like if read in a different tone of voice or we could see their face behind the screen?
Which is not always easy for some autists at the best of times either, so when we just read the flat text I think not knowing how it's meant creates an anxiety that sets our minds up to auto-read it as if it's the worse possible scenario and the other person is aggressive... when in reality they may not be.
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🐝 Bees 🐝 (they/them) Autism resources in bio #stoptheshock #NothingAboutUsWithoutUs over 3 years ago in reply to 🐝 Bees 🐝 (they/them) Autism resources in bio #stoptheshock #NothingAboutUsWithoutUs

Sporadic Sparkly said:
I will then attempt to ask the other person as calmly as I can for clarification as to exactly what they meant.

And that tbh.
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🐝 Bees 🐝 (they/them) Autism resources in bio #stoptheshock #NothingAboutUsWithoutUs over 3 years ago in reply to 🐝 Bees 🐝 (they/them) Autism resources in bio #stoptheshock #NothingAboutUsWithoutUs

Sporadic Sparkly said:
I will then attempt to ask the other person as calmly as I can for clarification as to exactly what they meant.

And that tbh.
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