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Rapid negative mood from misinterpretation of conversations

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Any tips on what to do if you suddenly get angry because of what (you think) someone has said?

I find it very difficult to notice / stop when I am in this spiral, until after the event, when I have said something that escalates the situation.

I have noticed that the key symptom / precursor is that my teeth clench (involuntarily), but by then I have pretty much gone down the rabbit hole.

This is an endlessly recurring process that has a highly negative effect on relationships.

Thanks

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  • I've been in that situation on numerous occasions. Depending on my interpretation of what's been said, it can leave me in a foul mood for the rest of the day, or maybe for several days. 

    What I try to do is refrain from immediately flying off the handle at the other person, although I openly admit that this does depend on the extent of my anger. I will then attempt to ask the other person as calmly as I can for clarification as to exactly what they meant.

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  • I've been in that situation on numerous occasions. Depending on my interpretation of what's been said, it can leave me in a foul mood for the rest of the day, or maybe for several days. 

    What I try to do is refrain from immediately flying off the handle at the other person, although I openly admit that this does depend on the extent of my anger. I will then attempt to ask the other person as calmly as I can for clarification as to exactly what they meant.

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