• Replies 9 replies
  • Subscribers 10 subscribers
  • Views 2000 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Are you looking forward to Christmas ?

Cullpepper

I'm not.

I've never been a party person. I'm 69yrs old now, but even when i was younger, i think i felt odd not wanting to join in the festivities. But i think even more so now. Especially in the evenings when i'm sitting here alone. I've been going to bed earlier and earlier. I think about it, i wish things were different. I think if i had known what i know now, when i was younger, i'd have lived my life so differently

Parents

  • Yes I am looking forward to Xmas. We have a small do on the day just our immediate household and then boxing day or the day after go visit friends and family that we actually like.
    We hugely trimmed down our Xmas to just what we want and enjoy doing over the years because my other half (who isn't diagnosed with anything but definitely is not neurotypical) isn't a big social bunny either.

    Xmas day was always the one day nothing bad happened to me so it is an immaculate island of unspoiled joyous memory in an ocean of trauma throughout my life. So with the exception of xmas shopping which I really don't care much for because of the last min rush and crush so I do it the day after Halloween or online instead... I actually really love xmas, I visually stimm myself into fuzzy giddy elation from the lights and decorations, and really throw myself into it.

    Cullpepper said:
    i felt odd not wanting to join in the festivities

    Not wanting to be overwhelmed, or risk making a social fax pas isn't the same as not wanting to be included, I know we autists usually aren't the most gregarious folk but I believe we still want acceptance and love just like everyone else. We're still human after all. Is that perhaps what you are feeling?

Reply

  • Yes I am looking forward to Xmas. We have a small do on the day just our immediate household and then boxing day or the day after go visit friends and family that we actually like.
    We hugely trimmed down our Xmas to just what we want and enjoy doing over the years because my other half (who isn't diagnosed with anything but definitely is not neurotypical) isn't a big social bunny either.

    Xmas day was always the one day nothing bad happened to me so it is an immaculate island of unspoiled joyous memory in an ocean of trauma throughout my life. So with the exception of xmas shopping which I really don't care much for because of the last min rush and crush so I do it the day after Halloween or online instead... I actually really love xmas, I visually stimm myself into fuzzy giddy elation from the lights and decorations, and really throw myself into it.

    Cullpepper said:
    i felt odd not wanting to join in the festivities

    Not wanting to be overwhelmed, or risk making a social fax pas isn't the same as not wanting to be included, I know we autists usually aren't the most gregarious folk but I believe we still want acceptance and love just like everyone else. We're still human after all. Is that perhaps what you are feeling?

Children
No Data