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Hi everyone. I'm new to this site.  I'm 41 and have just figured out that I am autistic. It's been a life changer for me.  However, it's also really making me question if I want to bother with other people and friendships. I've struggled with keeping friends my whole life. There always seems to be a misunderstanding that happens and things end up blowing up.  I'm just very tired of going through this over and over. 

I have a husband and a couple of friends that I talk to regularly.  I still struggle to trust them. Even people I've known for decades, I still find myself not really trusting them. It's hard for me. I just feel that no matter what I do, people always misunderstand.

I'm really just venting more than anything. Have any of you felt like this?  At 41, it's just hard to try to relearn how to socialize and be "normal."  I just don't have the energy.

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  • Hi, welcome. I'm new here as well and newly diagnosed but I'm 16. I'm finding it a bit hard as well, there's so much to learn and figure out and it's kinda overwhelming and right now feels like never going to figure everything out. Kinda wanna scream. But take it slow and be kind to ur self, we both got this and I think with time we can adjust.

    It's cool u got your family and friends. My family are a big support for me.

  • in reply to Bowie Fan

    Hi April & All,

    I'm so impressed with your post April and how you are approaching life. I know it can't be easy. 

    I'm a newbie to the forum and a Mum to a 13 year old Son who is finding school in particular very difficult, but also the day to day stuff too. He doesn't understand why though. 

    He's fortunate in that he's got a lovely little bunch of lads around him that have common interest in gaming. His friends are what keep him at school generally. 

    My question is how do I help him become self aware when he doesn't want to talk or engage in such conversations. He is very much of the view that 'people are just getting at him' all of the time. He doesn't seem ready to understand how his behaviours are received by others. 

    School haven't been great, it's a real battle. Then of course my Son doesn't want me to speak with school as in his eyes 'I make it worse'. 

    If there is one thing that your parents could have done/ can do  to support you what would it be? 

    Thank you. Pray 

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  • in reply to Bowie Fan

    Hi April & All,

    I'm so impressed with your post April and how you are approaching life. I know it can't be easy. 

    I'm a newbie to the forum and a Mum to a 13 year old Son who is finding school in particular very difficult, but also the day to day stuff too. He doesn't understand why though. 

    He's fortunate in that he's got a lovely little bunch of lads around him that have common interest in gaming. His friends are what keep him at school generally. 

    My question is how do I help him become self aware when he doesn't want to talk or engage in such conversations. He is very much of the view that 'people are just getting at him' all of the time. He doesn't seem ready to understand how his behaviours are received by others. 

    School haven't been great, it's a real battle. Then of course my Son doesn't want me to speak with school as in his eyes 'I make it worse'. 

    If there is one thing that your parents could have done/ can do  to support you what would it be? 

    Thank you. Pray 

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