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Hi everyone. I'm new to this site.  I'm 41 and have just figured out that I am autistic. It's been a life changer for me.  However, it's also really making me question if I want to bother with other people and friendships. I've struggled with keeping friends my whole life. There always seems to be a misunderstanding that happens and things end up blowing up.  I'm just very tired of going through this over and over. 

I have a husband and a couple of friends that I talk to regularly.  I still struggle to trust them. Even people I've known for decades, I still find myself not really trusting them. It's hard for me. I just feel that no matter what I do, people always misunderstand.

I'm really just venting more than anything. Have any of you felt like this?  At 41, it's just hard to try to relearn how to socialize and be "normal."  I just don't have the energy.

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  • Hi, welcome. I'm new here as well and newly diagnosed but I'm 16. I'm finding it a bit hard as well, there's so much to learn and figure out and it's kinda overwhelming and right now feels like never going to figure everything out. Kinda wanna scream. But take it slow and be kind to ur self, we both got this and I think with time we can adjust.

    It's cool u got your family and friends. My family are a big support for me.

  • in reply to Bowie Fan

    Im someone that never did anything and my life is really goong to the dogs. You keep going and dont stop. Dont so whst i did and never start

  • in reply to Weazelbeast

    Weaselbeast. For nearly twenty years I was feeling exactly those feelings.

    Take your own advice, keep on going and never stop.

    When it gets too much by all means take a strategic pause, and even strike out afterwards in a new direction, but never surrender, never give up. I knew a guy who "never did anything". When he was throwing away his drawings, really mad pointless stuff, I rescued it from the bin. What he saw no value in will one day make me some money.

    IF I ever get MY act together of course with respect to discovering how Art is marketted and putting his "work " out there. It's value in is the thousands of hours he spent doing it..  

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  • in reply to Weazelbeast

    Weaselbeast. For nearly twenty years I was feeling exactly those feelings.

    Take your own advice, keep on going and never stop.

    When it gets too much by all means take a strategic pause, and even strike out afterwards in a new direction, but never surrender, never give up. I knew a guy who "never did anything". When he was throwing away his drawings, really mad pointless stuff, I rescued it from the bin. What he saw no value in will one day make me some money.

    IF I ever get MY act together of course with respect to discovering how Art is marketted and putting his "work " out there. It's value in is the thousands of hours he spent doing it..  

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