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Hi everyone. I'm new to this site.  I'm 41 and have just figured out that I am autistic. It's been a life changer for me.  However, it's also really making me question if I want to bother with other people and friendships. I've struggled with keeping friends my whole life. There always seems to be a misunderstanding that happens and things end up blowing up.  I'm just very tired of going through this over and over. 

I have a husband and a couple of friends that I talk to regularly.  I still struggle to trust them. Even people I've known for decades, I still find myself not really trusting them. It's hard for me. I just feel that no matter what I do, people always misunderstand.

I'm really just venting more than anything. Have any of you felt like this?  At 41, it's just hard to try to relearn how to socialize and be "normal."  I just don't have the energy.

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  • I feel the same to some extent. I'm mid-40M and just found out that I'm likely Aspie having just had an initial diagnosis for one of my children. I have been feeling generally depressed (and anxious on and off) for about 6 years. I generally feel "meh" most of the time, but I've got a wonderful family and I run a company that employees people that also rely heavily on me.

    I'm exhausted. I don't know who I am anymore. I don't have the energy to be a good father and husband, never mind motivate my staff. I don't want to speak to clients, or deal with important sales enquiries. I'm worried the impact all this will have on my company and my own earning potential.

    I've just read about Autistic Burnout and this really seems to apply to me, especially with the work side of things. Have you considered whether this applies to you?

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  • I feel the same to some extent. I'm mid-40M and just found out that I'm likely Aspie having just had an initial diagnosis for one of my children. I have been feeling generally depressed (and anxious on and off) for about 6 years. I generally feel "meh" most of the time, but I've got a wonderful family and I run a company that employees people that also rely heavily on me.

    I'm exhausted. I don't know who I am anymore. I don't have the energy to be a good father and husband, never mind motivate my staff. I don't want to speak to clients, or deal with important sales enquiries. I'm worried the impact all this will have on my company and my own earning potential.

    I've just read about Autistic Burnout and this really seems to apply to me, especially with the work side of things. Have you considered whether this applies to you?

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