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Hi everyone. I'm new to this site.  I'm 41 and have just figured out that I am autistic. It's been a life changer for me.  However, it's also really making me question if I want to bother with other people and friendships. I've struggled with keeping friends my whole life. There always seems to be a misunderstanding that happens and things end up blowing up.  I'm just very tired of going through this over and over. 

I have a husband and a couple of friends that I talk to regularly.  I still struggle to trust them. Even people I've known for decades, I still find myself not really trusting them. It's hard for me. I just feel that no matter what I do, people always misunderstand.

I'm really just venting more than anything. Have any of you felt like this?  At 41, it's just hard to try to relearn how to socialize and be "normal."  I just don't have the energy.

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  • Good morning.

    Yes - everything that you have written applies to me - albeit that I'm a decade or so older than you and male.

    How long has it been since you became self-aware that you are autistic?  I ask this because I have found that my mood and inclination to make necessary adjustments (things like - should I give-up on particularly tiring 'friends' for instance) has changed from week-to-week and month-to-month.

    If you are anything like me, when I first realised, it was like a lightening strike of realisation - and I was on a massive high!  Soon after, my mood sharply dipped when I realised that nothing was going to magically change just because I was aware of myself for the first time......work is required!  The question is (and remains) what changes!!

    Let me know - and welcome to this place.

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  • Good morning.

    Yes - everything that you have written applies to me - albeit that I'm a decade or so older than you and male.

    How long has it been since you became self-aware that you are autistic?  I ask this because I have found that my mood and inclination to make necessary adjustments (things like - should I give-up on particularly tiring 'friends' for instance) has changed from week-to-week and month-to-month.

    If you are anything like me, when I first realised, it was like a lightening strike of realisation - and I was on a massive high!  Soon after, my mood sharply dipped when I realised that nothing was going to magically change just because I was aware of myself for the first time......work is required!  The question is (and remains) what changes!!

    Let me know - and welcome to this place.

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