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Feeling frustrated with my own unreasonableness

Oakling

This isn’t a major one, but it is causing me a bit of frustration with myself. I have become fixated with the weather lately. A combination of weather i strongly dislike, along with excessive focus on keeping my house and family cool have lead me down a very tunnel visioned path of late. One I’m hoping to navigate away from soon. It’s all I talk about, but I talk about it far, far less than I’m thinking about it. It’s constant, but entirely out of my control (the weather that is, not my focus on it- that is arguably in my control, but something I’m struggling with).

But as a result I’m finding I’m checking weather forecasts multiple times an hour each day. Logically, I know and understand why these are inaccurate, I really do. But whenever they have been wrong lately, I feel lied to and frustrated. The rain expected yesterday was less than a short lived sprinkle where I lived- not what was predicted. As a result, inside I felt disappointed and angry that the news made such a huge deal out of these downpours and colder temperatures in my area, but they didn’t really happen. It’s frustrating, but not as frustrating as the fact that I know that forecasts are inaccurate but still get cross when they are wrong. It’s completely illogical of me, which I find disappointing. 

Apologies but I think I just needed to offload here. I know that I need to work on trying to move away from this fixation, as it is damaging my morale. Perhaps you can relate, not to this exact scenario, but maybe a transferable one in which the emotions are being negatively impacted (in this situation it is of my own doing I think).

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  • I can relate to that. 

    I check the weather app every morning to see what the temperature will be so I know what to wear. I decide when to go for a walk based on the temperature and if any rain is on the forecast.

    During the very hot days I checked most hours what the temperature might be. I even checked the met office site as well. I also watch the national and local weather on the TV often twice a day. I note where clouds are passing on the local maps. However probably for people like me they have said recently that these may not accurately show where the rain will fall. 

    A few years ago I discovered on the BBC site you could see where the local prediction was taken and did note it was a little distance away, so should realize it won't always be accurate. 

    If we have snow I keep checking so I am prepared and will try to arrange shopping delivery so it is not affected by the weather.

    I enjoyed the weather part of my geography A level and when I did meteorology for D of E I ordered regular weather maps from the MET Office. These were paper copies (shows how long ago that was). 

    I didn't know until recently that I was autistic. I didn't know a lot about autism until I researched difficulties my son was having.

    I always thought of weather as an interest although someone did comment recently that I seemed obsessed with looking up the weather on my phone.

    Last evening I enjoyed looking at the changing cloud patterns as the sun got closer to setting.

    Looking up details helps with managing various things including keeping your home a comfortable temperature. I wouldn't worry too much and you are definitely not alone.

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  • I can relate to that. 

    I check the weather app every morning to see what the temperature will be so I know what to wear. I decide when to go for a walk based on the temperature and if any rain is on the forecast.

    During the very hot days I checked most hours what the temperature might be. I even checked the met office site as well. I also watch the national and local weather on the TV often twice a day. I note where clouds are passing on the local maps. However probably for people like me they have said recently that these may not accurately show where the rain will fall. 

    A few years ago I discovered on the BBC site you could see where the local prediction was taken and did note it was a little distance away, so should realize it won't always be accurate. 

    If we have snow I keep checking so I am prepared and will try to arrange shopping delivery so it is not affected by the weather.

    I enjoyed the weather part of my geography A level and when I did meteorology for D of E I ordered regular weather maps from the MET Office. These were paper copies (shows how long ago that was). 

    I didn't know until recently that I was autistic. I didn't know a lot about autism until I researched difficulties my son was having.

    I always thought of weather as an interest although someone did comment recently that I seemed obsessed with looking up the weather on my phone.

    Last evening I enjoyed looking at the changing cloud patterns as the sun got closer to setting.

    Looking up details helps with managing various things including keeping your home a comfortable temperature. I wouldn't worry too much and you are definitely not alone.

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  • in reply to Homebird

    Thanks for this. It’s a new fascination for me at the moment, one I hope to drop due to the fact that I’m taking on the responsibility for something I’m not in control of (if only I was Storm from the X-Men comics). 

    It was interesting reading of your early interest in the weather too though. I was similar in my interest in maps (both real and fictional). I love exploring these- especially physical copies (so much more satisfying).