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Feeling frustrated with my own unreasonableness

Oakling

This isn’t a major one, but it is causing me a bit of frustration with myself. I have become fixated with the weather lately. A combination of weather i strongly dislike, along with excessive focus on keeping my house and family cool have lead me down a very tunnel visioned path of late. One I’m hoping to navigate away from soon. It’s all I talk about, but I talk about it far, far less than I’m thinking about it. It’s constant, but entirely out of my control (the weather that is, not my focus on it- that is arguably in my control, but something I’m struggling with).

But as a result I’m finding I’m checking weather forecasts multiple times an hour each day. Logically, I know and understand why these are inaccurate, I really do. But whenever they have been wrong lately, I feel lied to and frustrated. The rain expected yesterday was less than a short lived sprinkle where I lived- not what was predicted. As a result, inside I felt disappointed and angry that the news made such a huge deal out of these downpours and colder temperatures in my area, but they didn’t really happen. It’s frustrating, but not as frustrating as the fact that I know that forecasts are inaccurate but still get cross when they are wrong. It’s completely illogical of me, which I find disappointing. 

Apologies but I think I just needed to offload here. I know that I need to work on trying to move away from this fixation, as it is damaging my morale. Perhaps you can relate, not to this exact scenario, but maybe a transferable one in which the emotions are being negatively impacted (in this situation it is of my own doing I think).

  • in reply to Mariusz

    My knee is similar. Checking the weather as much as I do is new to me, and I’m hoping to go back to a more balanced situation soon.

    Well, I’m hoping everything will cool down first!

  • in reply to Billy87

    I think the heatwave is what’s done it for me too. I very rarely checked the weather before. Probably due to the fact that the weather most others dislike (rain, wind, cold etc.) are things that don’t worry me in the slightest. But this has been different, and most probably due to the same reason people check for rain etc. (disliking a certain weather type). It’s just that I’ve done why I always do, become hyper fixated on it. At least I have an explanation for my fixations now though I suppose.

    Hopefully we will back to normal soon though. 

  • in reply to Homebird

    Thanks for this. It’s a new fascination for me at the moment, one I hope to drop due to the fact that I’m taking on the responsibility for something I’m not in control of (if only I was Storm from the X-Men comics). 

    It was interesting reading of your early interest in the weather too though. I was similar in my interest in maps (both real and fictional). I love exploring these- especially physical copies (so much more satisfying).

  • I have personal weather detector - my damaged wrist, so I don't need to check forecasts :P, highly reliable

  • I can relate to this. Usually I never watch weather forecasts and I cant think of anything more boring than talking about the weather but since this heatwave I have become a bit obsessed with it. Im on the bbc weather hour by hour forecast several times a day and the weather really effects my mood and sensory feelings so I understand how you feel

  • I can relate to that. 

    I check the weather app every morning to see what the temperature will be so I know what to wear. I decide when to go for a walk based on the temperature and if any rain is on the forecast.

    During the very hot days I checked most hours what the temperature might be. I even checked the met office site as well. I also watch the national and local weather on the TV often twice a day. I note where clouds are passing on the local maps. However probably for people like me they have said recently that these may not accurately show where the rain will fall. 

    A few years ago I discovered on the BBC site you could see where the local prediction was taken and did note it was a little distance away, so should realize it won't always be accurate. 

    If we have snow I keep checking so I am prepared and will try to arrange shopping delivery so it is not affected by the weather.

    I enjoyed the weather part of my geography A level and when I did meteorology for D of E I ordered regular weather maps from the MET Office. These were paper copies (shows how long ago that was). 

    I didn't know until recently that I was autistic. I didn't know a lot about autism until I researched difficulties my son was having.

    I always thought of weather as an interest although someone did comment recently that I seemed obsessed with looking up the weather on my phone.

    Last evening I enjoyed looking at the changing cloud patterns as the sun got closer to setting.

    Looking up details helps with managing various things including keeping your home a comfortable temperature. I wouldn't worry too much and you are definitely not alone.