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Billy87

I am really confused and just need some help. 

How do I cope with being autistic myself and having a severely autistic son? I feel sometimes like I can cope with either my autism or his but not both. When he is screaming high pitched screams at me or hitting me or pinching or throwing things at me it is the ultimate sensory overload. I dont know how to cope with it and help him while Im having a sensory overload and meltdown myslef

Please help, I have no other autistic people I can talk to about this at the moment and I am so lonley and confused 

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  • I do understand to some degree.

    My son is lower ability but in a mainstream school. Sometimes when he is stressed about something I understand better than NT partner so it works well. However other times when he is uptight, his behaviour shows he is stressed and I find it hard to cope with. Sometimes on these occasions if he is occupied I will take myself somewhere quiet to unwind. He can cope with watching TV with background noise like music on his phone, but for me this is sensory overload.

    I try to manage it by having time to myself when he is in school or going for a walk. If you are alone it is more challenging.

    I do feel that there is very little opportunity to relax, because I don't know when something will cause a problem for my son. It feels like treading on eggshells but somehow I need to work out how to manage as I understand it is hard. I do try to say to him when things are hard that I know how hard it is and we try to work out solutions.

  • in reply to Homebird

    Im not alone as my wife is wonderful with both me and him but it is so hard for her to cope with two peoples autism, I fear if I put too much on her she might break

    Also, when she is out at work or doing things and its just me and him in the house thats when all this happens. I know what you mean about not having time to relax thats exactly how i feel

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  • in reply to Homebird

    Im not alone as my wife is wonderful with both me and him but it is so hard for her to cope with two peoples autism, I fear if I put too much on her she might break

    Also, when she is out at work or doing things and its just me and him in the house thats when all this happens. I know what you mean about not having time to relax thats exactly how i feel

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