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Loneliness as an autistic person

SummerBerries

God it's so lonely when you're autistic. No-one ever understands. I'm sobbing because the person I thought was my best friend made plans with other people for their bday. And I know they can have other friends but it stings because they're the only person I consider a friend. I'm so terrible at making friends and I'm so hurt that I wasn't invited to their bday. I'm so lonely all the time. I just want friends and nobody understands that I just physically find it impossible to engage with new people which leaves me stuck in the loop of having nobody anymore now I've left school. I'm at uni and because I commute from home I haven't made a single friend there yet either. I'm only posting this to vent really. Because I don't see how anyone can give me helpful advice when I've felt this most of my life. Just so alienated from everyone. It hurts. 

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  • as some one who has been where you are please consider joining a club. If there is any student club that closely aligns with your interests join it and turn up to events. Even if it means catching a late bus home or occasionally getting a taxi. trust me it will be worth it.

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  • as some one who has been where you are please consider joining a club. If there is any student club that closely aligns with your interests join it and turn up to events. Even if it means catching a late bus home or occasionally getting a taxi. trust me it will be worth it.

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  • in reply to Peter

    Yes- I also think this is a good way forward- it's often easiest to connect to people through a shared interest. 

  • in reply to Peter

    Yes - I think volunteering, joining a club or something - that is the way forward for many people. My son has left college due to the pressure of his social anxiety and selective mutism - but being at home is only making him feel more isolated. When he is feeling strong enough I’m hoping he’ll be able to go out into the world again and make some connections with people through volunteering etc. Deep down he’s not happy with completely withdrawing from people - he wants to connect with others - he just finds it very difficult. Good luck everyone x