My wife has aspergers and has always had severe anxiety in certain situations. One of these being our 4 year old and his whining / tantruming to which he knows works.
She is really struggling to find anything or anyone that can help, hence why I am on here.
She has a rare insomnia that is medication controlled and working well. This took years to get right. GP's are scared to touch any of her anxiety meds in case it affects the sleep which landed her in hospital many times. I do feel it needs a review but wouldn't dare unbalance the sleep either.
However the anxiety stops her from loving our son and the slightest whimper can send her over the edge in screaming things like 'get him away from me now'. He just doesn't understand but knows it works in getting what he wants from her. I get him into nursery as much as possible and take him out as much as possible at weekends but she still can't cope.
She blames me for not helping enough and hand on heart I try my best. I constantly reassure but feel broken from the constant heightened emotion that I try to change the subject or don't show enough reaction.
We have tried several private therapists, 1 became a friend and just a chat the other straight to the point, which my wife did not like as it was borderline rude.
So really any help or ideas would be massively appreciated as I really don't know what to do for the best.
