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Bereavement and grief

CFen

My brother died suddenly in December, and it's been a really really tough time.

When he passed, I'd been in a new job for just six weeks. I've found the last few months to be overwhelming and I've now had to take some time off work sick. The time off has made me realise that one of the reasons I was exhausted all the time is that my executive function, which is usually okay-ish, has been severely affected by the grief. I am constantly distracted, unable to start tasks, really struggle to process information, and really forgetful. My brain is like a conveyor belt of constantly passing thoughts, none of which I can grab hold of and do anything with.

Has anyone been through similar, and have coping strategies and/or ways to improve executive function whilst under this much stress.

Thanks in advance!

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  • I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. The loss of a sibling can be the hardest to deal with. 3 years ago I  lost my sister and my brother within 14 days. Overwhelming doesn't come close to describing the tumult emotions. This also came at a time of stress, moving house to mention just one. At the time and for many months afterwards my brain went into overdrive and I had an inability to express feelings and emotions in an  comprehensible way. I  have only very recently been diagnosed with autism but on reflection it explains many of my reactions. Many of my family misinterpreted my communications. I believe if I had been aware of my autism then everyone would have better understood my reaction and would have been more supportive. Your description of a conveyor belt of costly passing thoughts so clearly sums it up. I  also say my brain never stops. My coping  mechanism is to keep busy, do things that need concentration which helps focus the  brain on just one thing. I  personally do crafty things. 

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  • I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. The loss of a sibling can be the hardest to deal with. 3 years ago I  lost my sister and my brother within 14 days. Overwhelming doesn't come close to describing the tumult emotions. This also came at a time of stress, moving house to mention just one. At the time and for many months afterwards my brain went into overdrive and I had an inability to express feelings and emotions in an  comprehensible way. I  have only very recently been diagnosed with autism but on reflection it explains many of my reactions. Many of my family misinterpreted my communications. I believe if I had been aware of my autism then everyone would have better understood my reaction and would have been more supportive. Your description of a conveyor belt of costly passing thoughts so clearly sums it up. I  also say my brain never stops. My coping  mechanism is to keep busy, do things that need concentration which helps focus the  brain on just one thing. I  personally do crafty things. 

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