Published on 12, July, 2020
Put bluntly im struggling to cope. I am told its ok not to work but cant get past the guilt. People say its ok and to chill but i feel like ive wasted my life. My family say they love me and to be happy but i cant seem to accept not having lives the obligations of adulthood. Anyone here not work but is supported or partner to someone with asd who doesnt...how is it
Some years ago I was out of work, and I found a video game that really interested me. I got totally into it, spent hours on it, got to know it inside-out, got to know the other players (socialising is much easier with text chat!) and even found how to modify the game. In short, I became an expert in the game. Of course, my real-world friends thought i'd lost it - was without hope. It took two years. Then one day I saw an job advert where they were looking for someone to interview players of that game. I applied and got the job. My friends were confused! It was a good job. So, my suggestion is to do something that really interests you, whatever it is, however obscure; start with whatever resources you have, no matter how minimal. Learn all about whatever you have chosen. Get good at it. Become an expert. It will be fun to do, and being an expert is an achievement. People need experts, even in obscure things. You have such potential, it's just hard to be recognised by the neurotypicals, so we have to find our own path.
Having un medicated ADHD that’s co morbid with autism is a nightmare because you can’t concentrate enough to build up a unique skill.
I appreciate that I am very fortunate to be able to focus totally when something really interests me. And that doesn't mean that life has been easy. It's just that the original post was about feeling guilty for not fulfilling the "obligations of adulthood", so I hoped that my story might be helpful. It's only one example, but I do believe that everyone can make a great contribution to the world, in their own way.
why am i fighting so hard against responsobility