How can I get out of going to a concert?

My wife has paid a lot of money for me and our family to go and watch Coldplay in Scotland in August. As much as I love listening to Coldplay and really admire Chris Martin as an Musician I'm really not looking forward to going and I keep telling her but she won't re-list our tickets to get the money back and insists on us going.

Its a big milestone in my Birth years this year so she's adamant that we are going but I'm worried about the crowd that will be there the surroundings of not knowing any of the area etc I really don't want to go and it's going to cause arguments and I will get called 'boring' etc.

My question is what would you say to get out of this potential nightmare? She thinks I'm ungrateful when I say I don't want to go and doesn't seem to listen. I would much rather sit at home and watch a concert.

I went to watch Motorhead in Manchester years ago and I was a nervous wreck and my anxiety levels were through the roof so much that the most enjoyable part of the night was when I was leaving to get in my car and go home.

So any advice would be much appreciated.

Parents
  • Its beginning of May, you are already worrying and building up the anxiety and trying to avoid it.  Past experience is partly behind it, but what is happening is you are thinking all about what might go wrong, worries/fears, and not actually about going to enjoy the concert that might be difficult for you but I assume with a partner there for support and enjoy with.

    Switch the focus to the actual performance, the enjoyable bit, you have 3 months to set yourself ready.

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  • Its beginning of May, you are already worrying and building up the anxiety and trying to avoid it.  Past experience is partly behind it, but what is happening is you are thinking all about what might go wrong, worries/fears, and not actually about going to enjoy the concert that might be difficult for you but I assume with a partner there for support and enjoy with.

    Switch the focus to the actual performance, the enjoyable bit, you have 3 months to set yourself ready.

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