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NAS77989

Hi

My whole life I have been an introvert with only like 3 close friends. Once I reached high school, I tried to be more open and actually try and talk to people: I got along with, about 5 classmates with whom I spent my first year in there hanging out and stuff like that, we were something like the "popular kids". That changed a few months ago, where there was a sort of beef going on (between me and the other classmates), where we stopped talking and I am pretty sure they don't like me anymore. I only talk to like 1 classmate now and don't feel like it's going to change anytime soon. Also to mention, I go to a really hard high school, where the teachers put a big amount of pressure on me, and my grades are not as good as they used to be in middle school.

Now, 2 of my close friends are mostly hanging out with other people and the third one, who has been the closest one, and a really good friend of mine my entire life is moving away to another country. Also, I dont see as much support from my parents as I should. They are not bad parents, but I barely talk to them by now. The only thing they are non-stop telling me is that I should be studying more so I won't fail school, because that's the only important thing to them.

My life is just so repetitive now it's getting exhausting. All I do now when I get home from school is sleep, watch youtube and browse the internet. I don't have any hobby to keep me entertained. Recently, I have been hitting the gym, but grew tired of it after about a month. Also, I have been playing computer games my whole life, but I dont find any enjoyable for the past 3 months or so.

To be honest, I have been having not so warming thoughts for about a year now, and I am seeking any advice on how to keep going.

  • NAS77989 said:
    not so warming thoughts for about a year now

    I've been there few times, even tried, I wouldn't reccomend it, Don't make it easy for them. There is so many things worth seeing/doing in this life you haven't discovered yet.

    What saved me last time was a sort of a life hack I came up with - two contradicting desires - that one I could satisfy only elsewhere and I so did not want to leave that I couldn't leave to satisfy it, and so I stayed in bed for 8 days eating chocolate fighting my daemons

  • I do not feel I am the best person to offer advice/suggestions, but on the topic of friendships, they can sometimes be complex and difficult at any age. As I've got older, I have had friendships that have drifted apart. Not necessarily as a result of a falling out, but simply because friends have moved away, or because our lives have gone in a completely different direction and we have suddenly found that we no longer have anything in common. This can be difficult, particularly if one doesn't have many or any other friends.

    There will be members here who will possibly relate to feeling pressured by parents to do well at school.

    When feeling particularly stressed, it is not uncommon to find that we no longer derive any sense of pleasure from things we might normally enjoy. In your case, your computer games. This is something I have experienced many times throughout my life, and I find it most frustrating when it happens. In my case, this tends to happen when stress escalates into full-blown depression. Once the depression eases, I am able to do that activity/hobby again, and I find it enjoyable again.

    I am concerned about the 'not so warming thoughts' you are experiencing, especially as you say you have been having them for about a year. Forgive me if my interpretation is incorrect, but if you are implying that you are having thoughts of a suicidal nature, I think it is of vital importance that you speak with someone, such as your GP, or a counsellor about how you are feeling.