Bad thoughts

I'm really struggling with bad thoughts at the moment I think it's because I'm not feeling well and the anxiety and autism in one making it so overwhelming. I don't want to hurt myself but at the same time I do and have this urge it's really hard to ignore. Not sure what else I can do about it. I don't want to tell mum she would worry and I can't call doctor until tomorrow. Any distraction or advice would be really useful right now.

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  • First of all, it's worth pointing out that by coming here (anywhere really) and asking for advice, you are currently winning in the battle against these bad thoughts. Well done for that bravery

    Okay, not knowing anything about you or your mentality, I don't know how well any given approach would work for you. For that reason, here's a few, admittedly generic things

    * Stay around other people as a distraction. If what you're looking for is just to buy time or ride the wave, I think being around at least one other person as much as possible is a tried and true distraction. Even if that's as simple as just being in the same room as somebody, not even talking, it goes a long way. I wouldn't do just this though. The best approach I think would be to think up a strategy to deal with the thoughts, while in the company of others. The idea is that, you'll have to be by yourself at some point and you've got to make sure you're safe when that happens (night time for instance). The other suggestions may(?) help with that

    * Replace thoughts as they come up. Again, I don't know you, so this may seem like total nonsense. But for me, by far the most effective strategy for thoughts is to gain control of them. This involves some level of awareness, i.e listening in to what *exactly* you're thinking, what the automatic stuff is. Then, consciously dispute those thoughts if possible, or replace them by saying something along these lines in your head "This is what I'm thinking, but I'd rather be thinking about [...]". By actually thinking those words, you're taking control back from thoughts that you don't want. As I said before, you're already winning by coming here in the first place, so you definitely have the strength!

    * Tell someone in real life. You can dismiss this immediately if you want to, but I think it's very important to at least have your decision be balanced. That is, if you aren't going to tell someone, do you think that's the best thing? It might be, I know for some people they aren't in a position where they can tell anyone. But, as long as you really consider what your fear is and if it's justified etc, I think that's the main thing. Chances are though, in most cases, telling someone close to you is the best way. 

    If you have any questions about what I've written here specifically, please do ask. And, I really really hope that you're okay. Either now, later, or eventually :)

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  • First of all, it's worth pointing out that by coming here (anywhere really) and asking for advice, you are currently winning in the battle against these bad thoughts. Well done for that bravery

    Okay, not knowing anything about you or your mentality, I don't know how well any given approach would work for you. For that reason, here's a few, admittedly generic things

    * Stay around other people as a distraction. If what you're looking for is just to buy time or ride the wave, I think being around at least one other person as much as possible is a tried and true distraction. Even if that's as simple as just being in the same room as somebody, not even talking, it goes a long way. I wouldn't do just this though. The best approach I think would be to think up a strategy to deal with the thoughts, while in the company of others. The idea is that, you'll have to be by yourself at some point and you've got to make sure you're safe when that happens (night time for instance). The other suggestions may(?) help with that

    * Replace thoughts as they come up. Again, I don't know you, so this may seem like total nonsense. But for me, by far the most effective strategy for thoughts is to gain control of them. This involves some level of awareness, i.e listening in to what *exactly* you're thinking, what the automatic stuff is. Then, consciously dispute those thoughts if possible, or replace them by saying something along these lines in your head "This is what I'm thinking, but I'd rather be thinking about [...]". By actually thinking those words, you're taking control back from thoughts that you don't want. As I said before, you're already winning by coming here in the first place, so you definitely have the strength!

    * Tell someone in real life. You can dismiss this immediately if you want to, but I think it's very important to at least have your decision be balanced. That is, if you aren't going to tell someone, do you think that's the best thing? It might be, I know for some people they aren't in a position where they can tell anyone. But, as long as you really consider what your fear is and if it's justified etc, I think that's the main thing. Chances are though, in most cases, telling someone close to you is the best way. 

    If you have any questions about what I've written here specifically, please do ask. And, I really really hope that you're okay. Either now, later, or eventually :)

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