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Teach me how to become non-verbal and stay that way.

Abbie

As the title says.

Since I'm incapable of speaking correctly, I've decided I won't speak at all. Is there a way to forcibly become completely non-verbal without actively harming oneself? I haven't decided if I want to attempt communication in some other fashion yet. I just know talking is off the table.

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  • Hello, I am sorry you feel this way. What do you mean when you say you are incapable of speaking correctly? There is no right or wrong way to speak or communicate.

  • in reply to Ausomely Autistic

    Hello, thanks for taking the time to respond.

    So many times whenever I talk I just upset and anger those around me or make them uncomfortable. I'm told I'm allowed to have my own opinions, but the majority of the time when I express them I get shut down or told I'm wrong. I'm just tired of feeling like the oddity and outsider. I have decided speaking my mind causes too many problems and makes me feel awful. So if I can be silent from now on and just be a good little robot, maybe things will get better.

    I suppose I could just lie, but I've never been very good at that...

  • in reply to Abbie

    Sorry I took so long to respond. If people don’t accept you speaking your own mind and giving your own opinions, then they don’t value you. You shouldn’t feel like you have to be silent in order for things to be better, this is people pleasing. You deserve to be accepted for who you are, there may be a mismatch of communication styles. This means you may feel like you have to keep justifying yourself.

    Abbie said:
    I'm just tired of feeling like the oddity and outsider.

    I am sorry you feel like this. Hopefully you feel like you can connect with us and the wider autistic community. Maybe you need to find your own autistic tribe. Would you want to join a social group for autistic people?

     https://www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/branches

    I hope this helps.

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  • in reply to Abbie

    Sorry I took so long to respond. If people don’t accept you speaking your own mind and giving your own opinions, then they don’t value you. You shouldn’t feel like you have to be silent in order for things to be better, this is people pleasing. You deserve to be accepted for who you are, there may be a mismatch of communication styles. This means you may feel like you have to keep justifying yourself.

    Abbie said:
    I'm just tired of feeling like the oddity and outsider.

    I am sorry you feel like this. Hopefully you feel like you can connect with us and the wider autistic community. Maybe you need to find your own autistic tribe. Would you want to join a social group for autistic people?

     https://www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/branches

    I hope this helps.

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