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mental health who cares

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hi i am a main carer and i have got personality disorder .reactive depression . anxiety .stress . i have been married for 25 yrs to my wife who has bio polar disorder . i have been trying to get help with mental health for a long time tried wellbeing . carer for the carers . ats mental health . health in mind . the problem i find that none of these support my kind of mental health ...
i also suffer with neuropathy tried various pain killers no help i am on antidepressants with nerve pain relief ..
my dr says i have no life and cannot see where to send me for my mental health issues ..i am waiting to hear back from the local mp about mental health issues .. they will support my wife only if she goes manic but nothing for me why is there no support for these conditions that i have got ?

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  • Also, there is a hint of truth in OPs point. My therapist recommended that I don't 'vent' regularly to my social connections; that's not what friendship is for. Yes, it is OK to vent and to lean on others in times of need; the operational word here is 'regularly'. For many people who struggle with depression, it has become their new normal. It isn't a question about venting any longer but finding methods you can use routinely to deal with it (without involving friends in the thought process behind coping methods).

    To have a good relation with someone it needs to be feeded positive association. If you are routinely venting, there's a risk you're alienating people by having more net time of "negative moments" shared.

    This doesn't mean you can't talk of worries or search for help among friends. It simply means the primary purpose of a friend is to create good memories, not alleviate your pain. My therapist said that those who do have a recurring need to 'vent' should ideally do that with professionals where there are no personal stakes or judgement involved.

    If others always show concern over your situation, you are reminded that your new normal state is not "good enough" which perpetuates the issue. Ideally, your friends should treat you in a normal way with normal expectations so you can grow as a person and meet more social possibilities, hopefully using these resources to combat the depression.

    The best days I spend with my mother is when we eat lunch or go shopping and talk about normal things; not when she is azar.pro showing concern.

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  • Also, there is a hint of truth in OPs point. My therapist recommended that I don't 'vent' regularly to my social connections; that's not what friendship is for. Yes, it is OK to vent and to lean on others in times of need; the operational word here is 'regularly'. For many people who struggle with depression, it has become their new normal. It isn't a question about venting any longer but finding methods you can use routinely to deal with it (without involving friends in the thought process behind coping methods).

    To have a good relation with someone it needs to be feeded positive association. If you are routinely venting, there's a risk you're alienating people by having more net time of "negative moments" shared.

    This doesn't mean you can't talk of worries or search for help among friends. It simply means the primary purpose of a friend is to create good memories, not alleviate your pain. My therapist said that those who do have a recurring need to 'vent' should ideally do that with professionals where there are no personal stakes or judgement involved.

    If others always show concern over your situation, you are reminded that your new normal state is not "good enough" which perpetuates the issue. Ideally, your friends should treat you in a normal way with normal expectations so you can grow as a person and meet more social possibilities, hopefully using these resources to combat the depression.

    The best days I spend with my mother is when we eat lunch or go shopping and talk about normal things; not when she is azar.pro showing concern.

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