mental health who cares

Also, there is a hint of truth in OPs point. My therapist recommended that I don't 'vent' regularly to my social connections; that's not what friendship is for. Yes, it is OK to vent and to lean on others in times of need; the operational word here is 'regularly'. For many people who struggle with depression, it has become their new normal. It isn't a question about venting any longer but finding methods you can use routinely to deal with it (without involving friends in the thought process behind coping methods).

To have a good relation with someone it needs to be feeded positive association. If you are routinely venting, there's a risk you're alienating people by having more net time of "negative moments" shared.

This doesn't mean you can't talk of worries or search for help among friends. It simply means the primary purpose of a friend is to create good memories, not alleviate your pain. My therapist said that those who do have a recurring need to 'vent' should ideally do that with professionals where there are no personal stakes or judgement involved.

If others always show concern over your situation, you are reminded that your new normal state is not "good enough" which perpetuates the issue. Ideally, your friends should treat you in a normal way with normal expectations so you can grow as a person and meet more social possibilities, hopefully using these resources to combat the depression.

The best days I spend with my mother is when we eat lunch or go shopping and talk about normal things; not when she is azar.pro showing concern.

Labour are pretty rubbish at the moment but still a lot better than a Prime Minister who can’t open his mouth without lying, and a Chancellor who is a billionaire and follows an economic policy that leaves people having to choose between heating or eating. 

Still better than Labour. 

Yes. Dreadful government - totally failing disabled people on every level. 
The Tories always damage the public sector. 
Like you I might seem to be vaguely functioning to the ‘outside world’ - but I’m not really. ‘Not waving but drowning’. 

Whenever America sneezes, the rest of the World catches a cold.

It's absolutely awful isn't it. The leaders of the country come out with keywords like 'compassionate society' - I just think it's funny to hear. Also because a lot of us look and act well on the outside, at least I'm fortunate enough to do, I think some of the clinicians don't really have any idea of how to help because I don't appear to be in discomfort. Yet, I have a pressure brewing inside my skull and I'm as uncomfortable as hell, but I have had to learn to hide it and be a great actor. I have had to do this just to progress, snail pace like, in my life.

There’s not enough help - not even CLOSE to enough help. I’m sorry you are struggling - me too. I’m afraid we have to try to navigate our own way through as the support from state funded services just isn’t good enough. I think If you have the money you can access better help - but a lot of autistic people don’t have much money (I know I don’t). Good luck 

Hello. I also have a personality disorder (apparently), it's borderline as well and in my experience with that alone in the NHS is a lot of avoidance. Clinicians tend to want to avoid me because they view BPD as an untreatable malady (or at least extremely difficult to treat). At one point the hospital thought it was a good idea for one of their occupational therapists to give me some therapy. Basically talking and doing some breathing exercises. I can tell you it was useless and they seem to avoid me like the plague. Even the mental health charities do the same.

The doctor should be referring you to the hospital OR a mental health charity like Mind - at the hospital you'll get a chance to speak to a psychiatrist who should refer you to appropriate treatment. The mental health charities are not very good. I have found them pretty useless to be honest. The people who work for them have big hearts but I am always thinking 'maybe I could be doing a better job than them?'.

I am very much inspired by your idea and I am going to go to my local MP as well and complain about our similar situations.