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Why do I keep focusing on things that don’t matter?

NAS78225

Hi

This isn’t as deep as it sounds, lately I’ve found myself being really fixated on things that, at the moment, do not matter. They will matter EVENTUALLY but not soon enough for me to be as focused on them as I am. For example: I’m in college, will be moving home in may for the summer. I am OBSESSED with finding a job for one reason, I have a tattoo appointment at the end of June and want to make sure I have money. But applying for a job right now is like WAY too early cuz I’m looking at retail jobs/simple customer service job and I’m pretty confident I’ll be able to find a job the week I get home. But despite knowing all of that I have SO much anxiety that I just focus and focus on applying for jobs and finding jobs and not having a job yet is stressing me out so much. Example 2: Next year I’ll be living in a new dorm. I’ll be fortunate enough to be a single person living in a double room (2 beds, 2 desks, 2 wardrobes) I won’t be moving in until AUGUST. I am insanely stressed about figuring out how to lay out my room to fit the two simple things I want (a nightstand and my tv in front of my bed). I have fixated on this so much I have MULTIPLE drawn out diagrams in my phone. Again, I know I shouldn’t worry about it now but I can’t stop.

Why am I doing this? How do I make it stop?

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  • I am with you with planning too far ahead. Others will say don't think about it yet, but I find that very hard. I think it is a way of coping knowing I am prepared so nothing can go wrong I can't cope with.

    In the end it has a negative effect as I feel stressed and tired because I am planning instead of going to sleep.  

    I have started to try to block out things in the really distant future, but sometimes I write them down or draw them just so I can stop going over and over them.

    So I think your idea of drawing them could be helpful if you can leave them there to come back to. 

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  • I am with you with planning too far ahead. Others will say don't think about it yet, but I find that very hard. I think it is a way of coping knowing I am prepared so nothing can go wrong I can't cope with.

    In the end it has a negative effect as I feel stressed and tired because I am planning instead of going to sleep.  

    I have started to try to block out things in the really distant future, but sometimes I write them down or draw them just so I can stop going over and over them.

    So I think your idea of drawing them could be helpful if you can leave them there to come back to. 

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