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Am I overthinking everything or should I seek help?

NAS78178

Hi

I've been thinking lately of seeking some help from professionals but I'm in this strange situation where I find my self doubting my own problems. Almost like having imposter syndrome I think. The feeling I get when I think about how a doctor would dismiss my feelings or how my family wouldn't accept the fact that I may need mental help is like an immovable object in my stomach.

My memory is hazy at best and many of my days I have brain fog, makes thinking about anything so hard, I genuinely just feel like I'm getting dumber every passing day and it's been like this for a long time... I can't even remember the last time I wasn't like this.

I've been overeating because it's one of the only thing that makes me feel good for a little while even though it makes me feel like *** afterwards, been chronically biting my nails and skin around them until they bleed.

Even playing video games isn't fun anymore for the most part, it's just a distraction and it doesn't distract me well enough most of the time even though I keep coming back to the games.

I've been diagnosed with ADHD when I was in elementary school but since then have had my hyperactivity subside by almost 100% either because it's a misdiagnosis or because I was about to get kicked out of school and was tired of having all my privileges taken away at home and being screamed at at any opportunity as punishment.

Anyways, I'm not looking for a diagnosis here, I just need some guidance on what I should do and want to hear your opinions/similar stories if you have any. After writing all that above I feel as though going to a professional is a good idea but I always end up thinking that I overblew my issues and that it's not that bad, I should just man up, yet it always ends up with me being in a rut somehow getting back up.

Sometimes I wish I could just have some kind of accident just to get a break from everything.

  • I deal with a very similar issue. The one thing that seems to help me is to write it down. At the end of the day, before going to bed, I write in my diary all the things that have been on my mind and have been bothering me.

    I think there is plenty of evidence for the therapeutic effects of writing, even when it's just for yourself and even if you aren't going to read it again after writing it. When you write something down, your mind is "Tricked" to some degree. I thinks "oh.. it's on paper now. It's been documented. It's written down. I no longer need to think about this issue. If I need to think more, I can write more down."

    This has been my experience and I hope it helps you as well. Whenever I write something down, I am able to work through the issue and no longer think about it as often or at all. Whenever your mind is fixated on something, it wants you to slow down and analyze it and work through it. One reliable way of doing that is to write it out. Another route (if it's available) is to talk to a friend or therapist about it. That can help a lot as well.

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    I love the comments you make Juniper. Great suggestions. 

  • I can recognise some of this. Can you start a multi-vitamin? I would also look into a mushroom complex to help with the brain fog, but make sure you're staying moderately hydrated. 

    If you need a break, and it sounds like you do. Stop everything you can and search for what you think you might be missing. Throw out whatever you don't need. Go to the Library (not online), an art gallery, expose your head to new ideas, new perceptions. If you can, make a plan to do something you like one day of the week and commit to it no matter what. 

  • Hi,

    I'm sorry you are struggling. I can relate to questioning everything including my problems.  It is tiring to question everything all the time and it can create a lot of anxiety but depending on what you are questioning it can also lead to some useful insights and decisions. 
    Seeing a professional might be helpful: It would give you an external opinion, which might help limit some of the self-doubting and you will then hopefully be able to access some support. If you are unlucky and end up with a professional that is not understanding, don't be disheartened or doubt yourself, find a different GP that is more understanding.

    What has helped me is to not try and compare my problems to others as a way of measuring how important/valid they are. They are valid and everyone is different and it doesn't matter how huge the issue seems from the outside, if it is causing me issues then it is important. 

    I can also relate to the "getting back up"- I always got back up too, but at least for me it got harder every time (and I am currently extremely burnt-out and I do worry that eventually I will lack the energy to get back up). It's great that you do get back up all the time but I think trying to access support could be good- maybe it doesn't have to be as hard/exhausting. 

    I'm not sure if any of this is helpful. I hope you manage to get some support and feel better.