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I'm not sure if its a problem with my thinking. But it's difficult for me to make friends and acquaintances. It's not that I don't want to. When I'm approaching someone I feel they may not respond and I will be embarrassed. When they do not respond openly I feel hurt and that stops me from continuing further. I'm not sure if people sense I'm needy or whatever that is. The situation is abysmal when approaching women. Is it an issue with self esteem ?

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  • Funny how some traits affect us differently, huh? I go the other way. No filter, but completely unafraid of social encounters.

    Try saying this to yourself and see if it helps...might not, but always worth a go.. 'what I am is what I am, warts and all, I am of value. Those who matter will not mind, and those who mind will not matter.' You may get knocked back a few times; usually by those too shallow to see under the surface, but you will also run across those kindred people who see you as you are, truely appreciate the how refreshing your candor is and want to bond 'cos they just love what you are'. 

    I have a small circle of truely close friends whose love has weathered decades. Found 'em mostly by blundering in, raw me whilst they sputtered their beer or wine or coffee over some comical social gaff or other and took to me. Lol. Others weren't so sure about me at first, but then took the time to get to know me.

    As for partners, yup the same. Some exes of mine are still mates 'cos something I said nearly made them choke on their beer, but they still know I'm there when they need a friend to listen. We had some fun on the way.

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  • Funny how some traits affect us differently, huh? I go the other way. No filter, but completely unafraid of social encounters.

    Try saying this to yourself and see if it helps...might not, but always worth a go.. 'what I am is what I am, warts and all, I am of value. Those who matter will not mind, and those who mind will not matter.' You may get knocked back a few times; usually by those too shallow to see under the surface, but you will also run across those kindred people who see you as you are, truely appreciate the how refreshing your candor is and want to bond 'cos they just love what you are'. 

    I have a small circle of truely close friends whose love has weathered decades. Found 'em mostly by blundering in, raw me whilst they sputtered their beer or wine or coffee over some comical social gaff or other and took to me. Lol. Others weren't so sure about me at first, but then took the time to get to know me.

    As for partners, yup the same. Some exes of mine are still mates 'cos something I said nearly made them choke on their beer, but they still know I'm there when they need a friend to listen. We had some fun on the way.

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