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I’m I the only one who CANNOT DANCE?

Triana M

Curious! So, I’m someone who’s very musically inclined. I have a great ear and rhythm I play a number of instruments.. started when I was young it was something I took upon myself spending hours and hours a day writing music etc etc and yet I cannot fathom getting out on a dance floor and just letting myself move to music. Even alone it just.. does not come naturally to me. I’ll take it a step further and say it makes me cringe. To the point I now avoid these kinds of settings where people are dancing or music is involved. Scared of being asked to dance or expected to, unable to explain why I JUST CANNOT. Is this connected to autism, possibly? Can anyone relate to this sense of rigidity when it comes to dancing or an overwhelming sense awkwardness when subjected to music events where people are dancing?

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  • I am the opposite way round, I can dance well as long as I don't have to co-ordinator with others but can't play music for toffee and no matter how hard I try can't read music (it's the dyslexia, I can't see which line the note is on without getting out a ruler and counting, lol).

    But, yeah your aversion to dance could be to do with your autism and your particular sensory profile. something in your proproception and/or balance could effected. 

    I can co-ordinate me, but not in relation to objects, so can't drive or hit a ball with a bat, even though I can dance.

    Then, of course, dance is a social experience, so some of us will feel awkward about that even if we can move well to music.

  • in reply to Dawn

    How interesting. Just flip flopped. A lot of good points here though . there’s many aspects of my autism that it could be from. (And such is my life these days haha)

    i never could read music either. Reading in general isn’t my strong suit.. it’s come up as I make my list of qualifiers or potential qualifiers and I remember I had to take a reading class back in elementary school. Me and a few kids with speech impediments which I don’t think I had. I was never good at reading but I also remember not being sure why I needed to be there in that class. I really hated it. Especially the special attention from the teacher they’d work with us one on one, full attention. Hated that. With reading music it’s just as hard AND youve got to keep tempo! 

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  • in reply to Dawn

    How interesting. Just flip flopped. A lot of good points here though . there’s many aspects of my autism that it could be from. (And such is my life these days haha)

    i never could read music either. Reading in general isn’t my strong suit.. it’s come up as I make my list of qualifiers or potential qualifiers and I remember I had to take a reading class back in elementary school. Me and a few kids with speech impediments which I don’t think I had. I was never good at reading but I also remember not being sure why I needed to be there in that class. I really hated it. Especially the special attention from the teacher they’d work with us one on one, full attention. Hated that. With reading music it’s just as hard AND youve got to keep tempo! 

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  • in reply to Triana M

    I do read music and was in remedial classes for I don’t know what? Strangely I think it was for not joining in, I can read but have only read two books in my life. Audio books have opened up my insomniac life. Concentrating on reading while brain is in overdrive is always hard. A stutter was part of my childhood, anxiety along with questions being asked brings it back. I love anything to do with solving codes or sudoku.