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I’m I the only one who CANNOT DANCE?

Triana M

Curious! So, I’m someone who’s very musically inclined. I have a great ear and rhythm I play a number of instruments.. started when I was young it was something I took upon myself spending hours and hours a day writing music etc etc and yet I cannot fathom getting out on a dance floor and just letting myself move to music. Even alone it just.. does not come naturally to me. I’ll take it a step further and say it makes me cringe. To the point I now avoid these kinds of settings where people are dancing or music is involved. Scared of being asked to dance or expected to, unable to explain why I JUST CANNOT. Is this connected to autism, possibly? Can anyone relate to this sense of rigidity when it comes to dancing or an overwhelming sense awkwardness when subjected to music events where people are dancing?

Parents

  • I just connected a dot with some personal research about stimming. As a late diagnosis person I’ve spent 28 years learning to look normal. I can’t help but wonder if my not allowing myself to dance is synonymous with my not allowing myself to stim . Like they’re on in the same. Repressed physical expression. 

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  • I just connected a dot with some personal research about stimming. As a late diagnosis person I’ve spent 28 years learning to look normal. I can’t help but wonder if my not allowing myself to dance is synonymous with my not allowing myself to stim . Like they’re on in the same. Repressed physical expression. 

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  • in reply to Triana M

    I watched this video about stimming this morning and the person that made it likes to "stim dance" ie make all her favourite stimming movements to music- It made me think of your post so here you go in case you are interested :) 

    Stimming | What's That? - YouTube

  • in reply to Triana M

    There could be a link here. Sometimes (when I feel comfortable with the people around me or I'm sure the people I don't know are too intoxicated/involved in their own stuff to notice me) dancing for me feels like stimming! I love dancing - especially with swinging or bouncing movements, repeated again and again. I love to just go all out with it and that feeling of my body releasing energy in time with music!