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I’m I the only one who CANNOT DANCE?

Triana M

Curious! So, I’m someone who’s very musically inclined. I have a great ear and rhythm I play a number of instruments.. started when I was young it was something I took upon myself spending hours and hours a day writing music etc etc and yet I cannot fathom getting out on a dance floor and just letting myself move to music. Even alone it just.. does not come naturally to me. I’ll take it a step further and say it makes me cringe. To the point I now avoid these kinds of settings where people are dancing or music is involved. Scared of being asked to dance or expected to, unable to explain why I JUST CANNOT. Is this connected to autism, possibly? Can anyone relate to this sense of rigidity when it comes to dancing or an overwhelming sense awkwardness when subjected to music events where people are dancing?

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  • Dancing is always awkward as it means that I’m having to attend something that I’m really not wanting to be at. The stress is already building then. I have to use a lot of alcohol to even think of it. The same is with any sport mostly including a ball of any type. My sons often take the rise out of me, kicking, hitting , catching  and throwing a ball is never going to happen. Throwing a ball normally has a distance of about 2 metres!

  • in reply to Roy

    I can relate in a couple of ways on this one Roy. For one I’m not a sports gal myself but I think it has more to do with the team aspect than the coordination, personally. 

    but I hear that loud and clear with the needing of liquid courage to even consider attempting such things like nightclubs or anything like that. I’m coming up on my second year of sobriety after 10 years of drinking and using and my autism is presenting much more clearly now that I’ve removed substances. I helped me chameleon and also gave me a different title to hide behind. “Addict” it explained everything. It became the reason why I didn’t show up. Why I didn’t stay if I did.. it really lowered expectations for me which I appreciated a lot seeing as I had this phantom incapability which I couldn’t seem to express to anyone. 

    anyway that’s a whole tangent in and of itself but I understand the need for alcohol to tolerate. 

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  • in reply to Roy

    I can relate in a couple of ways on this one Roy. For one I’m not a sports gal myself but I think it has more to do with the team aspect than the coordination, personally. 

    but I hear that loud and clear with the needing of liquid courage to even consider attempting such things like nightclubs or anything like that. I’m coming up on my second year of sobriety after 10 years of drinking and using and my autism is presenting much more clearly now that I’ve removed substances. I helped me chameleon and also gave me a different title to hide behind. “Addict” it explained everything. It became the reason why I didn’t show up. Why I didn’t stay if I did.. it really lowered expectations for me which I appreciated a lot seeing as I had this phantom incapability which I couldn’t seem to express to anyone. 

    anyway that’s a whole tangent in and of itself but I understand the need for alcohol to tolerate. 

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